how do you keep a good relationship??? (Page 2)

Motati
Motati: Yes.
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LoisS
LoisS: Interesting advice....sounds more like personal projection.
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Motati
Motati: what else does one do, when you have tried to be the best partner ever?
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Motati
Motati: You can say that.
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LoisS
LoisS: If that is what is going on....and you have tried what you can communication wise with no reciprocation ....you end it, you walk away because...you might love them...but sweetheart...love yourself more than that.
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Motati
Motati: Exactly. Hence I am now self centred, the nonsense of putting somebody first doesn't work.
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LoisS
LoisS: It sure doesnt BUT, you dont have to be a hard ass now. You were with the wrong person. Now you have opportunity to look for a good guy/gal.
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Motati
Motati: I guess so.
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LoisS
LoisS: If you come off all like a self centered jerk, what kind of quality anything you think is coming your way? More bullshite if your not careful. Save the anger for the one who deserves it not the one who doesnt know where it came from. See what im sayin?
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Plumpcherry
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Motati
Motati: it seems as if the kinder you are, is the more you attract all the good for nothing chancers. I however get your point LoisS. I am not at all angry, and I truly believe in true love, but .......
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LoisS
LoisS: Too late...already read it...Womp Womp ....

How could it not be anger. If I spent all this time working on something that the other person couldnt give two squirts if they lost it. Yeah, I would be a little pissed off and I would take it away so its no longer an option to be dismissed.
I believe in love and so on and so forth. I also agree with the kinder you are the more people take advantage. This is why you let them know your boundaries and what you will put up with and wont. Not some list you drag out but, you know when someone is "joking" with you but they go a little too far. You have to let them know that is not your kind of "funny" and they should pull it back, if they dont, that is where their respect for you ends and you should take note.

BUT, dont be a dick if its not necessary
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Motati
Motati: Yes LoisS.
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Plumpcherry
Plumpcherry: LoisS I agree with you. Almost all the comments are good and right on, but if you start being something you’re not then you set yourself up for failure.

Gold diggers work doing things they don’t like sometimes to make a guy give them what they want. And most of the guys they are with are ones they do not like. They hypnotize themselves to get paper.

Like LoisS said the number one greatest love in a relationship is the love of self.

In order for that person to love you the right way you must first love yourself.

Because if you’re doing everything right and they still have issues with you sometimes it’s better to leave than to get scorch.
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Plumpcherry
Plumpcherry: You’re right. Being good is a curse over here.
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Motati
Motati: Most wonderful things happen in an ideal world but in reality nobody goes through more crap in life than a person with a good heart. It doesn't matter what the law of the universe says, that's the reality.
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LoisS
LoisS: Thats mostly because a person with a big heart will take more feelings and thoughts in then the average Ahole. This is why they feel more hurt. Not like the Aholes dont, just in a different way. More selfish and not really caring about it. Big heart =....*OUCH says ET.
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LoisS
LoisS: Who cares about wtf gold diggers are doing if its not affecting you or youre not one of them.

If there is no communication as to what each other wants or expects in a relationship of any kind, things can get strained right quick. It is work that is worth it when you see it works. People will argue and have their blah blah's. Its how you handle the blah blah's is how you learn to listen better and share your feelings also.

Yes, you will definitely get or scorched...
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