For the Ladies:Do younger women really like older men? loganbishop2: OK ladies, the question has already been posed "Should Age Be an Issue?” The vast majority that has answered so far say no. So, that being the case, here are some questions for clarification: What would you look for in an older man? What would you say is the age range (your age & his age) you would be comfortable with? Why would you be interested in an older man? What would be a turn off with an older man? (such as looks, money/car, job, etc), What would be a turn on? What would be the most important thing you would want from a relationship with an older man? I'm curious to hear from ALL the ladies. The reason is, I'm 50 and recently dumped by a woman my age( so she can chase after old boy friends who dumped her 20 yrs ago and try to recreate her past) with whom I have always been faithful and attentive to in every way. In my area the women my age don't seem to be interested in me.I’m told I don’t look my age by my friends and that I should start dating younger women. Age has never been an issue with me as to who I’ll be friends with but I’ve never really thought a younger woman would be interested in me due to the age difference. So ladies, your opinions and advice would be appreciated. I admit I have no idea what a woman wants any more so your advise would be appreciated.  Scopinitout1: Well, Logan, I'm obviously not a woman, so maybe I shouldn't be answering. However, I find your questions interesting. I had reasonable success in finding women who wanted to spend time with me when I was younger. But wow -- for some reason, it seems that many more women find me attractive, fun and appealing now that I'm older. Could it be that I'm more "established" (I mean, financially)? Anyway, I find in general discussion and with ladies whom I'm closer with that aside from certain commonalities (e.g., almost all want affection, a little spoiling, at least some level of security [financial and otherwise], and for us to really listen to them), different women want different things. Once you find someone who enjoys being with you on at least a superficial level, you have to get to know her and find out what she likes. It seems that most women like a guy who's a few years older than they are (maybe 3 to 7 years), but not TOO much older. Some, however, like guys who are quite a bit older. When I was teaching at the college level, in my late 30's through my mid-40's, several (not all or most, obviously) of the young ladies (early to mid 20's) tried to get me interested in them - some were outright "hitting" on me. So, it's hard to tell. My advice to you? Hang in there. Enjoy just talking to women, striking up conversations, and go from there. Treat them as interesting and worthwhile people, which they definitely are, and enjoy spending time with them. I'm confident that you'll figure it out.  Apple_Sauce: its this whole crazy thing. I'm not sure why. Its like, im creeped out when a 30yr old is trying to mack, but I flirt shamelessly with this 54yr old cop that shops at the same publix i do (he's like pierce brosnan meets sean connery) not sure if its him or the uniform (probably both)  calypso84: For me,the top boundry would be 9 years older than me. I find them more mature,they treat women with higher respect,they give better support and most of them do LISTEN what us,women have to say. But that's only my point of view. I'm sure there are women who find older men far more interesting than the younger ones. Even when it's a huge age difference.  SmileyStar18: any guy is sexy even if ur 16 and he is 20 hey i'll strip down get drunk and we'll get dirty...  Are em: First off im sorry about what your wife did to you, just to think you have invested so much into a marriage for things to end that way, I feel you. To answer your question, this is my personal opinion, Older men 4-10 years older are much more desirable. A man in his twenties is mostly focused on sex and is nowhere near even thinking about settling down, being monogamous and having a family versus an older man that does. Stability is very important. Not so much financial, for one I would rather be broke n happily married to a mature older man, than filthy rich but w a husband that is not mature n doesnt know what he wants in life.  MechaArya: Well first off I have to say, not all women like older men, each person is different in what they do and don't like in a partner. I myself do like men who a a couple years older than me ( I am 21 and my boyfriend is 25) If I were a single lass and looking for a older man I don't think that would go older than late 20's. But that's just me, on a side note I won't date boys (and I CLEARLY say BOYS) younger than me, my age is only tho just because they are rather immature to be honest. So, if you do want a younger lady best of luck to you and I hope you find someone who wont just run off on you and try to relive her past. Just keep in mind that some people are closed minded about the age-gap thing and will only date people a few years on either side. But there are people (like my mom and dad who are 12 years apart) that don't think that age is an issue at all. Hope that helps  n_o_b_o_d_y: I would say the norm would be <10 yrs older man to the woman. But of course, I'm asian, my culture probably plays a part in that... Older men do usually pamper the younger women and they are more sensitive to the feelings of the lady. On top of it, they are usually more sound financially than a younger guy with whom might not even hold a proper job and will probably need help financially time to time. There are also older men who think the younger women is just like the new Cartier watch to show off. Bought and disposed when the novelty wears off. However, it really depends on individual, everyone is truly different. Now that the till death do us part thing is like an old rag and thrown out every other day, who cares what/where you'll be in 5yrs or 10yrs? I might be dead tomorrow for all I know. I do truly believe in following the heart (though I've been hurt)...no matter how old or young he/she is, if both of you are happy, just go for it...Life is too short to worry about what your neighbour thinks... Now I definitely need to start a convo for: Do younger guys really like older women???  foGasm: 1. Should Age Be an Issue? No age should never be an issue in any relationship. 2. What would you look for in an older man? I'd go for the older man because of the experience. And the maturity. 3. What would you say is the age range (your age & his age) you would be comfortable with? Well my previous boyfriend was 9years older than me. I say 10 years max would be okay. 4. Why would you be interested in an older man? the experience ofcourse. and they know how to handle situations better than their younger counterparts. 5. What would be the most important thing you would want from a relationship with an older man? understanding. nined: For me age is not an issue no it all depends how well you click with the other person so to answer your questions: What would you look for in an older man? - same as with any man...Love trust companionship What would you say is the age range (your age & his age) you would be comfortable with? - my boyfriend is 46 and i am 32...but i would have fallen for him if he was older or younger Why would you be interested in an older man? - if he is kind nice funny intelligent and a good person What would be a turn off with an older man? (such as looks, money/car, job, etc), - same as with any man....turn offs for me are arrogance , sloppyness, being selfish etc What would be a turn on? - see question one What would be the most important thing you would want from a relationship with an older man? - see question one sophio: it`s a shame your wife had her mid life crisis thing , you sound like a decent guy . I can`t say what would make me , personally go for someone much older , but intellectually I have to think a big age difference is asking for trouble down the line . People have to have certain things in common , point of view , shared experience of a "time/era" , energy even , lol . My instinct is to say , look for a woman no more than 10 years your junior if you`re after a firm relationship . Of course , a young bird would have a great bod , lol ... but that`s a nice place to visit , could n`t really live there , if you follow me ? I hope things work out for you , all my best , Sophie , x vivv_00: here`s me: i like men who are within 3 years of my age. tried younger and older, older is fine, but i didnt fall that way sophio: fancying someone a bit older does n`t give you a "daddy" issue , I mean ... I`de be tempted as hell by Johnny Depp or Daniel Craig and my dad no way looks like those guys ( lovely as he is , lol ) ... should n`t generalise and label so quickly hun .  djdan2: 'Older guy' on an evolutionary view is a sign of survival value, a trait which women seek in men. Men prefer young females as it shows replication value. Thats why you tend to see older guy younger woman relationships vivv_00: i see, a good point. i had found a great hunter/protector in one not much older than myself  nippyhippy: Hi Bishop, in response to your question, I met my partner over 4 years ago when i was 17 and he was 40, he's now almost 45 & i'm 22. Fill your boots man You only live once, but make sure whoever you meet, not to give your heart away too easily and make sure you feel ready for something else with someone else, never do a rebound- they normally end in catastrophe. As for what women like in older men, for me personally, it's not about the money, but how thoughtful & chivalrous they can be, caring etc etc.... Be yourself and age doesn't even come into it  zedly1: it's a money thing i guess for you nip, i went out with a girl 12 years younger than me -bless her ! The most beautiful , brightest and loving girl I have ever been with ! She came from money so it was pure love ) Bless you Paige ... The way I look at it if some one is willing to show and give you love it doesn't matter the age difference ) Finding another in this world is hard at the best of times so if someone puts there hand out to you -grab it, hold on and never let go ( funnymanswifey: Yes because if theyre older theyre sometimes more wiser and have gone through more than teen boys and depending on the guy he might have more respect for women and i feel more protected with an older guy  lovelyrita88: Funny I should run across your conversation 'loganbishop2' I am actually a 23 year old woman and I'm dating a 50 year old man. We've been together 6 months and I'm absolutely crazy about him! I can't say that enough. It is very possible a younger girl can be attracted to someone who happens to be older. All depends on the maturity level of the girl. I've been an odd ball my whole life though. I've always been attracted to older men, it's not something many girls my age, atleast that I know, have in common with me. It does happen though (case and point). As far as having an age limit, I've never really thought about it. I suppose my limit is older than my parents, but really, he's only a few months younger than my mother so I'm pushing that limit anyways, lol. I'd say I'm interested in (some) older men because of the simple fact they are MEN not boys that unfortunately I feel like I raise when I'm with a younger man. I say some only because honestly, age is a state of mind. Some guys who happen to be older have the common sense of a 16 year old boy so no, not all older men are attractive to me. Just like in any non-taboo relationship it's all about each individual person. Now I believe an older man must have a younger outlook on life to be with a younger woman. Meaning he shouldn't be in the thought pattern "oh this is the end of my life, I should just give up" . Not a good mindset to be in anyways, but it certainly doesn't help in that situation. As far as preferences on the type of older man, idk. The guy should take care of himself, attempt to keep in shape, mostly for health but just like for me, if I don't have the motivation to take care of myself, how can I expect anyone to have the motivation to be with me. It would be nice if the man atleast ATTEMPTED to have a job. Money is never an issue with me, I have no desire to be a millionaire. Its whatever life brings, to me just enough money to live and be happy works, but I'm strange to begin with, lol. Mostly I'm with him because he makes me happy, life is too short and in most cases too hard to give up on someone you love & who loves you back.
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