Male sub/slave problems

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Mountain Joe: I dunno but it does seem to be a kinda tough road for the male sub/slave in our community …. Just doesn’t seem to be a whole bunch of Dommes/Mitresses among us. Observing their plight it seems they resort to changing their true selves to fit the mold of others desires, and that just seems kinda unfair to me. What is the solution? Is there a solution? Should we even concern ourselves with the situation?

Oh I know ….”go to fetlife” …. Well fetlife does offer a variety of styles and matches, but is there a solution here...where the need is...that we can develop … can we attract Dommes and Mistresses to our community somehow? Or at the very least aid in helping the people here find each other? Folks here praising fetlife, but they are HERE. It is great here, we have our own community...its a great community, we like it here. So why can’t we pull together and support our community. Resolve our problems here.

Would like to see some posted comments below about the situation and possible solutions. Or maybe I am seeing things with a wrong perception? If you think so, say so.

Male subs/slaves are especially encouraged to comment and describe their plight. Also any Dommes or Mistress please contribute, what would make it better?




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Mountain Momma
Mountain Momma: This does seem to be an increasingly bigger issue. Hmmm...i wonder why? But thanks for bringing the topic to O/our attention. i hope this sparks lots of good discussion.
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AlishaLucky
AlishaLucky: Just today I thought that I'd love to chat to male subs, and love the Dommes that I've spoken to. Fet is great, but Wire is better. I feel that Fet is complimantary to Wire as we can post more sexy things there without being flagged, but the chat is really important.

This is just an observation, but sometimes men, when they enter a room, get labeled as a troll or a creep for asking Qs. I think we all need to be more careful at who we're turning away, myself included.
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WOLF KING VOLTAX
WOLF KING VOLTAX: There is a big shortage of Dommes at wireclub in comparison to the number of male subs so any actual Dommes can be as picky as they want to be. And almost all the female members of wireclub's D/s community are submissives, not switches or Dommes. That is part of the issue as well. And the overwhelming number of perverts who ask sexual things or say nasty things over PM where the general public can't see it is also an issue. So it's a mixture of many things right now. Fetlife makes it easier to find what you are looking for, but there isn't really a chat feature on fetlife unless you are a paying member and download the program they offer. So a mix of wireclub and fetlife is needed.
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Mountain Joe
Mountain Joe: Very well said Alisha and thank you for your views. As for males asking questions in chat rooms, well, some of our D/s rooms encourage questions concerfning our lifestyle and of course general banter between occupants, male and female alike. Bfut that is not to imply that those same chatrooms are there as pickk-up dens. Thee arfe rooms aplenty in wire for dating, meetings, matchmaking and one of the most popular wireclub chat room is designed for pm chat. Also some D/s and BDSM rooms seem to encourage sexually oriented chatter and trolling ... The room description should be a clue.

Thanks again for you input and you sure are correct that fetlife has some really sexually explicit materials ....wooo hooo!!!!
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Mountain Joe
Mountain Joe: Well Voltax, good to see you participating in the forums ... and thanks for the helpful descriptions of the problems ..... now, if we can all work together to resolve the issues we face, instead of just repeatedly chattering about them in the chat rooms perhaps we could find solutions. I think that a combination of chat room and fourm discussions is the direction to take. Thanks Voltax.
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slave_prdise
slave_prdise: it is difficult to find a solution for this situation .. , for me it is far better to give up and walk away than change mode
you may notice that around 70% of male sub/slave here seeking Mistress , which make it more difficult to solve .. even if people succeeded to attract some Dommes and bring into our community
i don't know .. if male subs/slaves know about places where they can fined Mistress they will leave our nice community and go .. this is would be good solution for them i know it is bad for our community here - we will miss good people .. etc..- but at least they will put end to their suffering

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Mountain Momma
Mountain Momma: Alisha, i've said it before and i'll say it again....love you, love you, love you. Well said.
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AlishaLucky
AlishaLucky: cg- you're amazing <3
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lillyLICIOUS
lillyLICIOUS: a possible solution???

the community here is based largely on different types of chat rooms, mature, play, role play, castles, cottages, and sanctuaries. A good addition might be an all Dommes unite room. Maybe male subs would feel a little less anxious if they knew they were surrounded by like minded people.

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Mountain Momma
Mountain Momma: that is a most excellent idea lilly!!!!! Thanks for that.
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Mountain Joe
Mountain Joe: an excellent idea ......any volunteers to creat that room?
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Mountain Momma
Mountain Momma: i also wonder about the male subs that seek a Dom? Do they face issues that W/we haven't thought of yet? Something to consider.
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lutenant
lutenant: I would like to offer my own room for sutch use under the condition the rules are followed and there are a few people who can mod it while i am offline. As a Mistress i have also noticed the large number of male subs looking for a mistress as well as the equal number of trolls ( also being acused of being one for my lack of a pic) if there are those who wish to spread info and access to my room you are welcome to and if you would like to be a mod in my room message me and i will contact you to have you join the room so that can be done
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LotusBlossomxx
LotusBlossomxx: I also wonder about mentors and how they fit in, I find plenty of people are looking for some kind of mentorship as they embark on this new journey. Tough to find but know they are out there.
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WOLF KING VOLTAX
WOLF KING VOLTAX: Asking around to see who is willing to do it is the first step. And then asking people if the person is trustworthy or experienced enough, or is respectable enough to mentor someone properly is the nex step.
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Mountain Joe
Mountain Joe: lotus you should be ware thre are many trolls who are eagerly awaiting the opportunity to guide or mentor you. You might consider checking any potential metors being commited to the community code of conduct.
(Edited by Mountain Joe)
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Mountain Momma
Mountain Momma: another good idea is to spend some time just watching the conversations in the chat room to see how people interact....who shares your views, who maintains a serious approach to the lifestyle and exhibits a level of maturity needed to mentor you, etc. And THEN make your choice of mentor.
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angelusul8
angelusul8: Please see my new chat room, it's been set up for Dom and sub chat.
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DEEP_acheleg
DEEP_acheleg: all the good women are taken- by all the other good women
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Alice18847
Alice18847: Does anyone know where I can get a master? If you do friend me or chat me please.
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Cynthia_James
Cynthia_James: Any one please be my master.
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winterbaby1967
winterbaby1967: Your a putz u fool mountain Joe
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winterbaby1967
winterbaby1967: I am a woman Came on here and fell hard for something I always wanted and what did I get I got MY Husband a Taker Not a Giver Sex and Love is give and take not take take take take U loser!!!!!
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jbiggie57
jbiggie57: Anyone wanna sext
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dommedaisy
dommedaisy: Looking for a slave - I am a Findomme!
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