Come Join the Club Mountain Momma: Renegade1: i would suggest that starting w/joining the clubs and reading the wonderful articles/conversations there. Then i would suggest coming to the D/s chat rooms and spending time there...not looking for sex...but for knowledge. Get to know the people in the community, see how they interact, notice how they treat members of the opposite role, watch to see who are really committed to the lifestyle and who are just trolling for power or sex. And then you will be able to make the right connections. Mountain Momma: thank You Sir...its not popular advice because it requires an investment of time. But it is what ultimately led me to You....so it does work.  tsukikohime: i agree, good advice. True D/s takes work and commitment, do not be distracted by instant gratification. Peaceful journey... Mountain Momma: Thanks to you as well. Having good role models around are crucial. If you want to me a good sub...identify someone that has a successful relationship w/their Dom to see how a good sub interacts. The same thing for a Dom/me...if You see a Dom that has a sub who loves, supports and empowers Him/Her...watch how He/She interacts to illicit those wonderful submissive traits. i think that sometimes W/we all have to swallow O/our pride a little and recognize that the day W/we have nothing new to learn is the day that W/we stop living. tsukikohime: Very true, W/we certainly learn well by observation of others as well as self observation. Honest introspection is needed to truly know ones self and the kind of Dom or sub, Y/you are what Y/you offer to Y/your partner and what Y/you expect in return. |
