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meme25: If ur in a relationship with someone ur not attracted to should u tell them, or jus continue the relationship?
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urbanhermit
urbanhermit: Tell them but gently. You don't want to end up living a lie or perpetuating one that could harm others.
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Winky
Winky: I agree with hermit! If you keep him on the line you will completely harm him emotionally and mentally, if the love isnt there you will hurt yourself just as much staying with him! gentle and with as much empathy as you can you must tell him the truth!
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urbanhermit
urbanhermit: Meme, you also run thr risk of harming yourself. Regret is a powerful and painful emotion that can only affect your life in a negative way. You won't wan't to look back on this time with bitterness or carry it with you as it will also affect others around you.
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meme25
meme25: Hey guys its not me in this situation its a friend of mine so I dnt know the whole story...only the fact that the love is there she cares about jus not attracted to him she's never dated someone who wasn't her type how should she deal with that...
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urbanhermit
urbanhermit: She needs to figure out why she is with him in the first place and why she cares for him. I would say that she needs to talk with him about the whole thing as well as figure out what they both want out of their relationship first.

Prehaps she entered into the wrong type of relationship with him. Sorry but that is the best I can do for now.
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Goodbye_Nilla
Goodbye_Nilla: lmao the relationship will NOT work if she is not attracted to the guy! I've tried that... everything else was cool... but I was not attracted physically to the guy so it did not work out!
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Dan Nielsen
Dan Nielsen: Meme25 , if your friend got in this situation she should tell him the truth without putting it to gently because he might think there is a second chance in all of this. on top of that why did she begin with someone that is not her type ? i assume she wanted to know if she could be attract to someone that is not her type although it sounds to be that she is not sexually--- attached to him or is it his personality... and besides that , how deep is it for between him and her ? if its not that deep then she might aswell go all out and get over it ... sometimes its just better to be rush and go on with the life that she has and not feel as a prison that she has ,according to you, created.

i dont know how this helps but its more or less a black or white situation...
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Lazlow
Lazlow: If you're not attracted to the person you're with that is a big deal. Sure looks aren't everything but how do you think that will make your significant other feel knowing that the person they love isn't attracted to them? It will hurt a lot. Honestly, make them feel like they're the most beautiful person you know, that is if you do love them. If you don't then why are you with them? Most people don't date if some level of attraction isn't there. You need to ask yourself why you got with them in the first place and re-evaluate the relationship.
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Leari
Leari: You should tell them. Remaining in a relationship with someone u are not attractd 2 isnt good.
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MaThinker  (M.T.)
MaThinker (M.T.): The truth sometimes hurts. But it is more important to tell the truth gently and respectfully than lead the person on, even out of kind reluctance to express the truth. The other person deserves the truth, to be let down gently and with dignity. And besides one cannot live a lie, what u do not feel, to pretend is to self-destroy urself and hurt the other more in time to come.
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fashionixster
fashionixster: Hi, I would be more concerned with her self esteem. To be with someone she had no "spark" with highlights that she feels she isnt worthy of having the type of person she is attracted to? Thoughts?
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Akkie
Akkie: Tell them that the other guy is wasting his time
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PurrrKitKat
PurrrKitKat: tell em!
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workingman_1983
workingman_1983: Tell them relationships are had enough as is. Plus if it is somthing as simple as losing a little weight or getting a hair cut, if they love your freind they will try to make changes.
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sweetchildofmine8152
sweetchildofmine8152: tell them assertively, but in a respectable way as well..otherwise its just not going to work out..you will be bummed and that other person will be hurt
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softnsweet5000
softnsweet5000: sweetie think about it really, whats so attractive about that dont b mean to them but you dont have to just take anybody ...look for the people that build u up n if they r not rite for you and you say no theyll luv u enuf to leave you itll happen g'luck dear
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xoPRUExo
xoPRUExo: make sure you really dont want to be with this person first then like hermit said tell them gently and asap!
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SecularSarah
SecularSarah: Be honest and tell them, but be tactful. You still like the person, you just don't like them that way.
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weirdgirl888
weirdgirl888: id say once i think this over twice try it at first, like a small chance and if it gets ugly way too fast then be done with it
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gemaki
gemaki: Better to tell before yr relation goes far and hurt.
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