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kberry
kberry: I have a question for you guys. Why do guys think it's ok to avoid their gf when she's upset?

Being avoided when you really need someone's love and support hurts.
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rocketsauce81
rocketsauce81: Its not ok... Cant be around for the bad, not worthy of being around for the good.
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wandering ronin
wandering ronin: It depends on why she is upset. Im always there for my girlfriend but she is fucking rad.
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eternalyat1
eternalyat1: Most guys aren't either sensitive, or just struggle to know what best to say or do, little realising that just being there, listening with a cuddle is all we need ((((squeeeezy cuddles)))) If he cant be there when you need him most, is he worth it? Works both ways in any relationship, through good and bad, not pick and choose when it suits.
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Acidic_Alex
Acidic_Alex: because there are people who need to be alone when upset, and people who need company. ''Guys'' will take literally the meaning of ''I'm fine'' paradigm, even if in 99% of the cases the ''guys'' are expected to react otherwise. Things would be so much easier and clearer if partners would say what they have to say straight away without riddles and hidden hints in their requests.
That is one. case.

However, if he avoids you despite of your openly expressed desire to have his company, then you need to move on and find better companion as you've got nothing to lose.
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HeLLie
HeLLie: My ex used to yell at me when I was visibly upset and crying. He thought that was a way to comfort me. People show they care in very strange and different ways. He may think you just need some space to work out what's going on. Not everyone is equipped with the skills the comfort and support a person in the way they need. They can only do what they know.
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Dawn
Dawn: Mike used to leave me alone when I was upset before as he thought I needed space because he generally does when he's upset. But I had to really explain to him that I do need his support and not his absence. And no, I don't play mindgames either lol. I just tell it as it is.
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