y isn't the world the way i think it's supposed to be? unicorn350: i know its naive to assume things work the way u think they shud go, so i had been trying to adjust myself to the roughness, overcome obstacles, and live up expectations. Things r I DID, though I cant guarantee i did everything right. i guess my experience is whats being called a "fight", as in "i put up a fight with life everyday". for a while i thought i got everything going 4 me. but frustraions r there, ready to crack my nerve.i gained a lot during that process but other times when ppl think i did a great job, they didnt know how much i did to go along with things that i didnt agree with while preventing myself from being encroached, or brainwashed... the feeling of being misunderstood starts eating me...then i thought life cudnt be this miserable or else how was i gonna live until 60 or 70? something must be done, so i tried to conform a lil bit. it didnt pan out. it felt like betraying urself and i attributed this prb to my obstinate nonconformity. i stay true to myself but everything around me is rebutting,'its wrong'. im bewildered. i think life is beautiful, and i try to make it beautiful, but i feel like somehow the ppl around me r either not getting it or crushing dreams. my father has taught me to hold on to the goodness in life thru his conduct, but things around me rn't that way and they make me start to doubt tht belief. wat shud i do?  EraseThisFace: If I'm understanding correctly, it seems to me you owe it to yourself to "stay true" to who you are as a person. Others, particularly in the more traditional Asian countries, will "not [get] it," and may deem you as being "wrong." If you are an authentic human being, in touch with your feelings, your needs, your desires, (not what anyone else feels/wants you to feel, desires for you, etc), then you can't possibly be wrong because you know yourself better than anyone else. Live your life for you in spite of the judgments and criticism. unicorn350: thanx erase this face appreciate it soundingboard9, i think i feel things a lot deeper, and when you do, things are not settled so easily,even if you try to get it over with. something would always stay. Here, it's not the same thing to everyone.im disconnected with others because i seldom find any echo. im nt sure if its my prb or im in the wrong place...anyways i try to feel positively because i give myself somthing to look up to so that i dont fall.so now im like secluded a lil bit, that way i cud stay true to myself.but u know, even trying to not fall all by yourself is tough enough.  soundingboard9: You said that you feel things deeper than others. Can you describe your personality? What would your echo sound like?  Coffrey: "Life sucks" -EVERYONE Part of living in the world is balancing our idealism with practicality. don't get too bogged down with people and expectations because most people do not like someone who just goes along to get along. They like people who dare to be different, or some of the time. It's a risk, but to me, being yourself and true to who you are, not trying to be something you are not, it's just a better way to live and enjoy life.  britneybelle: You need to be true to yourself. Be who you are. For you. Don't get caught up in others ideals of who you should be. Don't should on yourself. Life is to short to conform to others wishes, besides you will always find someone who isn't happy with who you are. If you want to change then change for you. Shake the dust off your feet and leave those who aren't accepting of who you are. One of my favorite movies is Second Hand Lions. The best part of the movie is the part where he is challenged by a punk... Who do you think you are. I love his answer. So uch nowadays our identity is caught up in our jobs and what we do. Look past that and discover the real you. Challenge yourself WHO AM I? If you don't like the answer then make some changes. I did.  Zanjan: We live in an upside down society - that's the problem. If you do everything the opposite of what everybody else is doing, you'll be on the right track to wisdom. And you'll find others of your ilk that way - like seeks like. If you find life easy and smooth, you're not learning anything, not being challenged to rise above anything. The smart one recognizes when a mentor is needed - find your guiding light and set some goals......things will fall together then. Rome wasn't built in a day - neither is a sterling character.  duncan124: Some people are so far behind you and not heading in the right direction. They can,t do anything themselves and really want you to stop doing anything yourself.  TorresFabregas: wow u know they say a problem shared is one half solved that saying is true cos am like here i was thinking i was the only one thinking these things well anyways i think thats how life is for everybody at least at some point in time but u should always stay true to yourself cos no other way is better than that no matter how easier it may seem  Wonderbunny: When I was a child, I thought humankind was at the pinnacle of evolution and achievement, but gradually became disillusioned as I realised that we've got it so wrong in so many ways. Yes we have to make choices sometimes between being true to ourselves and following the path of least resistance. The old song says "You can't please everyone so you've got to please yourself" but getting along with others is about compromise sometimes too. If you choose to give in to another's will, that's your choice and you did it for a reason. I'd say be true to yourself over matters that are the most important to you. In other words choose your battles.  diolover71: Unicorn....are you an Aquarius?I know I have tried very hard to "fit in",in our society and never could.I used to believe that I was born deficient or that events in my life damaged me so that I became inept. Now I see that it really isn`t me that`s warped,it is the unthinking majority. Unicorn;I can really relate to what you are saying.I have turned into a recluse and that word disconnected, echoes in my head almost daily.I don`t feel like I am part of the human race. I have learned that ALL the institutions in our society are fake.It`s like the The Wizard of Oz.The more that I look at "civilization";I see that it is devoid of logic and compassion.Those who are the least aware,the most ignorant,and morally bankrupt are in positions of power at all levels.They all have one thing in common,they are slaves to their insecurity and they cling to self-delusion like a life preserver. (Edited by diolover71) Zanjan: Perhaps "disconnected" isn't the right word - you've just connected right here. Maybe a better word is "detached", which means 'aware, yet not affected' - that is, you're on the outside looking in, not trapped inside a world someone insisted on designing for you, nor floating in a world that has no relation to society or reality, as in cases of dementia. Some individuals have a higher immunity to conformity than others; due to their stronger constitution, they see through the veils of pretense easily and don't care to participate - no wonder they've always felt different. I, too, have been utterly ashamed of the human race. Nevertheless, we should keep reasonably informed of the things going on in this world so we can know what part we play in these events. We can all contribute to making the world a better place but first you have to determine what the needs are before you can fill them. Everyone has something to offer - what a waste if they didn't. KingOftheAtl: The world Is a rough place, I think the answer is determing what career or job you really want to do or get, if you develop a passion for something that can provide you an income, you will then be devoting your life to something that is bigger then you, then you will feel more connected to the world, you will feel like you "fit in" somewhere. dogeeda: i kinda think the first thing is to acknowledge to get along in the world you have find a way to fit in. if it is not apparent, keep looking. as you look you can make yourself feel more connected and useful by volunteering to help the less fortunate. you will feel better and it may lead you to a career or peer group that can give you a sense of purpose in a world that can seem brutal and uncompromising.  larryhemeon: Would agree, interesting and somewhat exciting, the world is changing, to what, as the zen master said we'll see.  eden63636: hi i would be happy sharing with u someting that really bother me if everything is passing, disappear , we, what we do, for what we do that? for what we live??everying is feel so meanless.. we die a jail were.. everying is feel to me so meanless... empty, and so small against all that world and what he was and will be that im not will be for long apart of him.. i will just disaapear with no influence and my children will have to come to my funerals and their childrens to there funerals... if we know its anyway what will be and we will anyway just will be wiped out from the world , for what?? what is the meaning of the life?? larryhemeon: I understand, I have a grasp on the universe, yet locked here in a one act play, I fought that issue for years. I once said those words to my grandfather, he said I understand, seems like yesterday I was in high school today I'm 84, after a bit he says, I pray every day that I may be allowed to put one more crop in. Keep it simple and pleasureable to one's self, not an easy thing to do, but should suffice our needs. I am Bi Polar, you may as well, I live the words you say and have for 40 years, there are some sites on the net that we'll give you a clue if you are, taking a simple test of yes - no answers. good luck, try to smile, others are counting on it. larryhemeon: got cha, one of the main charactoristics of Bi-Polar that and doom is just around the corner, just search bi polar you will find support groups, that will help, bi polar is caused by an unbalancing of chemicals in the body not a quick fix, but with effort, it will trouble you less. let me know if I can be any help. larryhemeon: Another charactoristic of manic depressive is self medicating, took me a while to get past that one, it only prolongs, and then multiplies the depression. I took paxil for years, turned me in to a smiling robot, I found that just knowing you are on the cycle between manic and depression was helpful and that tomarrow you may feel better, I nor others have a cure, just ways to get along in life. Ethan John: There is no way it is suppose to be luv......human nature is what it is and that is why there is good and bad bla bla bla....there is no one written rule.... except what perspective you hold for yourself and your beliefs and how you apply that to what you do and how you may try to help others.....but the "WHY" question is irrelevant. | Self-Improvement Chat Room Similar Conversations |
