Break up suck to you but does it really suck to the person who is Dumping you

iwannaburgal
iwannaburgal: Oh ok I just recently got dumped as of yesturday... no not person to person... not through a Call through a fricken text and get this we were together all weekend before this happened laughing and having a good time.. We told each other we loved each other 2 weeks ago and we have only been dating for 3 months but we were friends for seven years..
Now I cant eat not sleeping right and all I can think about is him and how much he has hurt me... My stomach hurts I cant think straight I can put heavy music like anger music but it only seems to work for a second...
I want to this hurtness to go away but then I dont because I want him back and I have a gut feeling that he wants the same but he just wants space but he also told me never to talk to him again is that true or is he just saying that for now...
I care about him so how can he be taking this so cool when I know for a fact he loves me and cares for me... I want this guy back and Im going to do whatever it takes to do so even if it means that I have to fight for 2 weeks a month... but yes it sucks beening dumped... that should of never been invented and yes I have dumped some one in my life time and it still hurt as hell but it was the best thing at the time.. So I dont know if the guy dumps you if hes hurtiing so guys feel free to coment on this cuz i have no clue feels like im so alone right now...
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ZeFrenchie
ZeFrenchie: Before I utter my opinion, I want you to engrave this in your brains (if it's not there yet): whatever anyone says to you, or whatever you read/hear/are told, they are all OPINIONS. You can choose whatever you want to do with them.

I believe he might need some space, maybe, but he didn't feel like he had enough of a way to tell you that face to face. Sounds to me like it would be hard to have a proper relationship with someone who cannot communicate freely with you, especially on something this important. What this means is you might have to change to allow him back in, as much as he needs to understand that staying the same on his side is likely untenable too.

And yes, we've all dumped or been dumped. It sucks, but it's often the best thing that could happen to us...

Hang in there, the Earth is still going round, and you are feeling the worst you will feel for some time: it *will* get better.
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Hyenablood
Hyenablood: let him go, clearly he did not think too much of you if he dumped you by text (coward). It is time for you to move on and get on with your life, find a activitiy that you enjoy and get on it. Take a trip or join a club and meet new people, just don't talk about being dumped recently or how lonely you are.
Do not chase after this guy, I know you are in pain, but chasing after him will make you look crazy or despriate, not what you want anyone thinking of you.
As for the pain, prehapes music isn't the answer, I know I love a good death band too when I am in a bad place. Maybe go online or to your local book store and look into chicken soup for the soul : moving on themes, reading about how other's coped with loss will give you ideas with how to cope.
If all else fails and you still feel bad and in pain, then maybe it's time to talk to a professional, look for places that offer low or free service for someone to talk to.
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unicorn350
unicorn350: just so u know this is my personal opinion from where i stand.
dumping somebody thru a text is a sign showing he is indifferent about this relationship or juz wanna get out of it as soon as possible. it;s not even a formal break-up(i know it sounds weird) but if he cares abt u he shud feel afraid to hurt ur feelings. u said u know he feels the same, abt wanting u back? if thts true holding on to him might as well not be so bad. but wats holding him back? did u have a minute to ponder over what has gone wrong between u tht made him tell u never to talk to him again?(i know nothing abt the complication of ur situation but juz saying u might wanna think abt it)
again, i still rather believe tht he didnt mean it when he told u to stop talking to him. u guys must have something lil more than that, given u ve been friends of each other 4 7 yrs.

overall, from a girl's perspective, if he feels far less hurt than u do, then GET OVER HIM bcoz he s easy when he shud feel somewhat tortured, and he might not be worth it. so instead of wallowing in sorrow, why not move on with a new attitude and concentrate more on urself just like hyenablood said? hang out wid ur girlfriends ur something. it ll make u feel more solid and less needy 4 a guy to complete ur life.

i ve never been dumped but i understand the feeling too well. ive dumped others, or rather we broke up peacefully. it was hard 4 me since im nt the type to get on quickly. but we gotta let go sometimes, right?
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iwannaburgal
iwannaburgal: Thanks every one for the replies and yes i know there all opinions I can take them or leave them.. but about me yes Im still hurt and that but I have been getting out hanging with friends and actually made plans for the whole weekend thats comming up the only down side to it is that its possible that he could be there... but Im just taking it day by day sometimes just minute by minute,, im ok when im around people who care for me and that but when Im by myself it just doesnt work but as of to day the sun is shining and I have a pulse and my heart is still beating
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