Dealing with Anxiety (Page 2)
mattingly: anxiety is related to our bodies physical protective response when we think we are in danger - the flight or fight response. for whatever reason our wires get crossed and we get mixed up and worry when it doesn't really make sense which can result in panic attacks or generalized anxiety.
sometimes it helps to pay attention to the signals your body is giving you (flushed face, racing heart, stomach butterflies) and to do calming exercises (deep breathing), thought stopping (remind yourself to think differently, use distraction), self talk (say positive things to yourself). This will help you train yourself out of the panic response.
It also helps to go ahead and act as if you already feel the way you want - this will help get your thoughts in line and then you will feel better. For example, walk around with your head held high and act as if you have all the confidence in the world and say hi to people you don't know even if you don't feel this way - this will help you have confidence and become more outgoing. If you practice these things over time you will start to have less anxiety.
Some people feel they do need medication because their brains get so hardwired to panic that its almost impossible to work through it without the help of medication.
I suffered from anxiety and panic attacks from the age of 16-25 and I managed to get out of it with these techniques and without medication. of course it was easier once i had a good job and a supporting husband
Have you thought about doing some volunteer work to help meet new people and start to feel better about yourself?
Sorang: anxiety..restless...moody...mix mode...most people have it either bc of trauma or whatever... so its not big a deal..I think la... how to control it?.. I dunno, I hate crowd so I avoid it, I hate public speech I deal it with lots of practice, Im a bit claustrophobic so never ride lift alone, I hate people talk loud even if for a good reason makes me want to punch 'em so I jz listen while imagining fun stuffs...
SouthernSam: Hi guys, I've been reading your posts and i feel for your suffering. I have had many anxious times in my life, sometimes intense but others just this kind of low level rumbling of dissatisfaction. I think anxiety which is a development of fear comes from a lack of connection with our true internal Self. It's a common symptom of the world we created. Sure we can find people or things or locations (or worse drugs and booze) to patch us up but they all come and go - transient as the weather. The ideal that i am working towards is to get really in touch with the internal me, in here is true centeredness which does not depend on anyone or anything else. It also puts us in position of strength to help all those around us. Meditation, quiet time in nature, developing a belief that i am in control of how i interpret things that happen to me, and in the law of cause and effect. Check out some of these guys: www.healyourlife.com
Sorang: I have bigger problem to handle than having anxiety attack... though it just very mild feeling now Im dealing it with sheer determination and try to relax more/ exercising a lot and trying to be friendly with people ~lol...
hope u r good today
hope to be friends with u if u want
read ur anxiety topic,think that every girl is special and u r also special,it's jst the matter of time,ok,have patience and everything will be ok.
have a nice day
miss gege: Lady.....i too suffer from severe anxiety disorder.....major depression forever.....PM me; as i would prefer to speak privately ...if you like, i think maybe i can help
Queenslander41M: Just get a boxing bag and punch the snot out it.
You will burn all that energy out of you and the exercise will also helps with brain function.
Its helped me so far.
BigRider: I think I spent most of my teenage years depressed. I suffered anger turned inwards. I had an inferiority complex. I never thought I was good enough. I know believe I am a child of the universe and that I am loveable and a lover. I was the school punching bag because I never stood up for myself, until I punched a bully on the nose. I still fought with self image issues. I then went thru messy backup and became a diagnosed with a mental illness. 4 hospitalisation they diagnosed with bipolar. I ended up a pentecostal christian but never got fully into it. I am now a wizard and the suits me now. A universalist that adopts all knowledge and uses it for no harm.No out of my massive depression after divorce thanks to exercise and will power and taping into the spirit of the universee
rin_chanisalone: to help beat my anxiety, i fall asleep listening to holographic (3D) relaxing audio of nature. it works amazingly well, 50% of my anxiety attacks went away after the holographic audio. i'm also on a strict diet: I NEVER eat out. I only eat foods that I make from scratch and stock up on fiber and protein. I also keep myself busy with either relaxing trips/things or ones that boost my energy and happiness, like relaxing in the hot springs or going surfing with my family. i also spend time with people. i take breathing classes that help me calm down when i DO get the anxiety attacks... works enough for me, hope it works for you.
LadyGanja: you know, its sad that the key is so simple, I havent had an anxiety attack in almost 3 months now, I suffered from a panic attack at Zellers a few weeks ago, long story short i saw someone there that i didnt expect to see there at all. Threw me into a panic attack and I ran around the make up section like a chicken with its head cut off... lol He (my ex) is about the only person that can spin me into those. Which would make sense, he was a depressed mofo, that could/ wouldnt step up for me. I put myself 110 % into that relationship, no one not even myself got that much attention from me. He didnt like my weight, and it was a considerable difference in our sex life. He was unattracted to me. I was extremely hurt by this. I thought that some how some way I would be able to make up for all the things he didnt like about me. I let him change me, I wanted him to accept me, but I thought that I needed to be more like him, in order to achieve that. Its been almost 5 months since we broke up, and the stupid guy still finds ways to get into my life. Blarg.
On another note, Ive been really well, things started to pick up, I got a job and I started to socialize, I find myself just being me and taking risks, lifes wayy too fucking short to feel horrible. Its really hard to break that shell of anxiety around you but once you finally do, oh how its nice to be free. Something I know he will never find. Living well is the best revenge! <3
Domanik: Since your name is LadyGanja, I assume that you smoke ganja. My advice would be to stay as far away from it as possible. People, the link between marijuana and serious mental illness is quite well established, if you have mental issues don't smoke that stuff.
Jasmine SoGee: iHave bad anxiety too &; i'm only 13 i see a therepist now &; itss gotten way bettr so i reccomend that!
M1TCH3LL_G1BS0N: Nothing wrong with smoking the bone, just don't do it too much, people might start talking bad about you. But I am glad you are doing better, even if you do smoke the ganja a little too much..
million: UNBELIEVABLE.Before writing some words here,i read some of urs then i know my depression is very small and that is..because i just feel panic and fearful when i do a bad job in my study,i even want to hit myself ever.anyway,i know its ridiculous now.u guys feel so anxious that all is about the life.what about us students?we have no stress，even if we have that is too WORTHLESS.hopefully,u can get over from the sadness and get better,trust urself--no one can even help you,just urself,that is the way it is~
LadyGanja: Million honey, I am a student, I went to college for massage therapy ( which was the second hardest program at my college...there is a lot more to it the rubbing ) last year and had to leave, Im returning next year. I understand the stress of a student, its hard, very hard. But its worse when you dont have the best household or living situations either. BUT may I remind you everyones stress is different and everyone deals with it differently, LIFE IS HARD in general, mine is no worse or no less then yours love.
supeople: what everyone else told u is simply rubbish...if u listen to this u might find a way out...lol
1.You need proper nutrition/diet...google search for food for dealing with stress/depression/anger.
2.change ur lifestyle, wake up eatlier that usual...breath fresh air, discipline urself, exercise, stretching/yoga, breathing techniques, meditation..u might need an expert for this.
3. never be idle..have something to do..hobby..learning..plan ur day.
4. learn to stabilize ur thoughts through meditation techniques.
those can bring good hormones(serotonin) into ur system and remove ur bad/stress(cortisol) ones.
5.Sports is the best anti depressant.
6. deep breathing..shallow breathing happens in stressfull situation...deep breathing is more relaxing, and better for ur blood circulation.
7.relax urself at least 10 mins a day..do nothing but relax.
8.channel ur anger somewhere else...like a punching bag or a pillow.
thats all i can say its a big mix ..u need to organize all this.
nefertutu: Sometimes a nice porno movie followed by a session of fap fap helps..specially when my gf is not home..lol xD ..comment above is totally worth it..thats about what my doc told me..lol