Dealing with Anxiety
LadyGanja: I have always had some sort of anxiety, like most people do, however its gotten to the point that I dont know what to do about it. Well its really a huge mix of anxiety, depression and anger.
I can NOT stand to be alone for long periods of time, I end up having a panic attack.
About 3 years ago, my abusive step dad kick my mom, sister, brother and myself out of our home. We spent 3 months in the women and childrens shelter. In that 3 months, I lost all my friends from high school, decied to move out with my boyfriend of the time because my family wasnt going to be able to find housing for all of us. Little did I know that this was just the start to all my bullshit. Im back home again, and things are still shitty.
My friends and I grew apart and now Im pretty much friendless and on top of that my boyfriend left me too. I have no one to turn too or talk too, and it makes me bawl my eyes out. I just would like to find a real person who understands me and maybe can help me through some of this.
if your going to be an a$$hole, then dont comment, I dont wanna hear it. Thank you
sweeet303: All that bullshit is a step closer to being stronger. You have to deal with the bullshit to see the brighter side. You live and you learn from your mistakes and you can't blame yourself for anything that happens, figure out why it did and learn from it. I suffer from depression seasonally and go through really bad anxiety. If I'm alone or overtired I will have an anxiety attack. I used to be able to talk myself out of it, but its just been getting worse. Best thing to do is just relax, get out of the house and have interactions with people even if you dont know them. Distract yourself. Nothings your fault. I know where you comming from trust me, find a hand to hold and dont let it go.
Michelle1027: Hi Ganja I grew with an abusive alcoholic father and a mother who never spoke to us kids. He kept us very isolated..as to say I never stepped foot in a restaurant until I was 16 years old. he made us come home from school drop our bags and work and I mean man labor until about 8 or 9 then we had to somehow finish our homework before he got to drunk and yell at us to go to bed while he was beating my mother. This went on every night of my childhood I do not remember one good day. I feel I have been through hell and back and I feel that I am kind of messed up inside from all of this. My mother left my father last year and went into a women's shelter but then soon returned back bc that is all she knew she was with him ever since she was 16 and is now 42. There are a few things that have made my life better and bearable and that was..as much as it hurts sometimes is trusting in God reading and believeing no matter what, my children, and my husband that God sent to me find a church family..I don't have one yet but I did in Georgia and it was amazing and don't be afraid to tell people who you are! I cannot stand to be alone I get very fearful and panic and I have alot of anger built up inside and I feel like noone understands or will ever. I did get help for my anxiety and depression call this number it is an income base mental heath place that will get you all fixed up you will be able to see a psychiatrist and counselor for just 7-14 dollars a visit 1-866-875-1757 it is the best thing I have ever done I am on a med called celexa - 4$ perscription at walmart and it has helped my soo much. I hope this has helped you God bless you remember you are an amazing human being and you will go far believe in yourself!!!
LadyGanja: Thank you so much for your help
I have always been told that the shit that happens in my life, will make me stronger but it is always hard to remember that. I know I should see a therapist, but I dont want them just to medicate me and thats that, you know. Both my mom and my sister are on meds for anxiety and drepression and I see what they are going through and I dont think I could do it myself, If you miss one pill it cause a pshyotic break, which in this family can be scary. In the past week I have had to deal with my mom being arrested because someone threated her and the family, ( and my mom isVERY protective over the family, since we lived in an abusive situation for years.) She went after the guy with a baseball bat, but he chased her around with a knife. She was released with no charges, and yesterday I found my sister crying after she carved fuck you into her leg. I dont even know how to deal with this kind of thing, ( just recently had to move back home with my family)
MIchelle, I am sorry you had to live your life that way, and I hope that everything works out for the best for you and your family. Its hard living a "normal" life after living in an abusive one.
EraseThisFace: Therapists don't medicate, psychiatrists do. Avoid psychiatrists. Your whole family could benefit from counseling.
Considering your sister and mother are on medicine, and their behavior as of late, they should be closely monitored by a mental health professional.
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lovely venia: I am on meds for anxiety and depression I lost my son and got very ill The truth is that this thing is a disease that people have and that it take more then med or talking to some to fix it take both. It also take have someone there that know about it and live with it my is bad but in some case med are not need but in other it is the key is finding the right one that do not take you away but allow you to live with the problem. It sound like there is something more there then just this issues there my be something more there with your family they need the right med the one they are taking are not working. I take meds to keep me from killing my self and have never reacted like that when I went off of them but I feel the sadness that is overwhelming to me and wont to stop that pain but there something more there they need a new doctor.
Boki: Escape from your bad thoughts...try to help yourself through self talk to encourage yourself, then try to solve all kind of problems which you hiding under the carpet, and start to pay attention more on yourself, on your needs rather then others. Try to travel somewhere and to meet new people...all of this can help you to feel better.
HardcoreHerbivore: I have had anxiety since I was a kid because of the environment that I was raised in.My experience with it leads me to believe that it is suppressed fear.When we are children and helpless we become conditioned by negative people around us and as a coping mechanism we don`t allow ourselves to feel hopeless and afraid.We distract ourselves from fear sometimes using anger to dominate fear.
What we are doing is only postponing our anxiety.
I have tried meds and I think that they do more harm than good.If your anxiety makes you cry,sometimes out of nowhere, for no reason does it make sense that you have a lot of sorrow that needs to be released.
I would advise that you find someone that you can s
LadyGanja: Hardcore, I actually think that is one of the most reasonable things I have heard yet concerning my anxiety, thank you very much I would like to talk to you more, if you like?
Nail Lizardman: what i do?i pray.....i go to church....i drink camomile....maybe a beer...i talk with relatives or friends.....but mostly i pray....
M1TCH3LL_G1BS0N: Yeah, everyone needs a friend to let out all their frustrations, sometimes it is hard to find people to talk to at times. Some people just don't want to listen. Some just don't care. I know what you're feeling, I think we all feel this way at times, I'm may not be a person that can give all the answers you are seeking, but I can listen and try to give support. Sometimes I need someone to talk to at times, maybe we could help each other.
LadyGanja: I would really like that, It seems impossible to find a good person out there that actually does wanna help. I would love to chat with you more
Np19: meditation helps, sometimes ones mind is so polluted with the daily stress life brings that we dont give our mind time to heal. i have found that going somewhere scenic with fresh air by myslef helps alot. drugs are a waste of time. find something that you enjoy doing that also helps if you keep your mind occupied. i know its hard but it helps.
Cage_Alien: I know how it can feel .. One do need someone to talk to. And whoever say that you need to help yourself can go to hell cause we all do need someone to pull us up. Sometimes its just too much and.. support is needed. I think pills can help on n off for anxiety .. like sometimes the ones that blocks histamin. not sure about antidepressants tho.. Hope things gets better. Im prob. not the best one to talk to.. at times it can be good to share things.. But i badly wish i had someone to talk to as well.. No one seems to understand much =(. ppl need ppl.. its only human
akashgoyal0210: hi dear.. i know u need a friend who can understand u and wid whom u can share ur feelings..i lke 2 b ur frnd..!!