about to Divorce, Scared to death
dtArtGod: I found out my wife is having an affair, I have been with her for many years and I am so angry and saddened by this. For the first time in years I sit here lonely and super isolated from my own life and I am dreading the future and the drama which is about to unfold in my life.. how does one negotiate and navigate such an ugly time in life?
Comrade_: Talk to someone who's been in the same situation and ask them how they dealt with it..no need to reinvent the wheel alone.
dtArtGod: Thanks, I am just real sad about all this, I thought it would never happen to me and alas it has.
trobins: Hi, I have been living through this for a little over a year now. Its so hard. My husband was having an affair. We have been together for 15 years. He is now living with her and starting Thursday our three kids start visiting them at their house two hours away. I am an absolute wreak. Its 2 am and I am an absolute wreck. I am even to the point of begging him back so I don't have two send my three kids there. WTH!! This is also a legal nightmare. YOur right this feels so alone an isolating. Nobody understands. I cry myself to sleep endlessly. I don't know what I did to deserve this,why me!!!!!!!1 Its like living hell on earth. AT times I wish I was dead so I wouldn't have to feel this pain, but I would never leave my kids without me. NEVER! I probably haven't made you feel any better, but I guess just know there is someone else out there feeling like you do.
PinkHarts: dont let this beat you up i went thru the exact same thing 4 years ago. i thought i would rather just die then go thu the pain of it all. didnt see how i would go on without him BUT.. it turns out it wasnt the case at all. its was SOOO for the better as im with the love of my life and i just cant even believe i was married to my ex in the first place. believe when they say everything happens for a reason because it for sure does. it might break you at the time but really its making you a stronger better person. If its not ment to be its not ment to be and wont be. we have to accept because its only gonna get replaced by something better=)
introspec: Caveman and others offered good advice, or solace....
I very much like advice of one of the columnists. "Are you better off with her or without her?"
Some people are truly capable of loving more than one person, no matter how strong the persuasion of monogamy.
And, some sorry mates are a mistake and a disaster to abide with.
Good fortune whatever you decide..............intro