the fourth girl

madilinesrescue: i have a lot of sisters and am always feeling like im just a shadow, i cant shake the feeling that i will never live up to the very high standards that they have set up for me, not that it was of there choosing or of mine really, i dont think . but i always feel like such an epic failure next to them, i dont get good grades, im not super outgoing nor do i have the ability to share any of there clothing. being the youngest kind of sucks in a way, you sortof get forgotten, even tho they say they love you, it sometimes just feels like youre the ackward second cousin that you only see at holidays and funerals.where everyone can jsut compare you to the last time they saw you only its every day and it happens three times as much

david the drummer: I'm the youngest child with three older brothers. I know that feeling you're talking about. Once you grow up more and get out on your own you'll make it through. There were some growing pains for me, there still are but hang in there.

Hyenablood: you must learn to find your own intrests in the world and create your own voice, you are unique in the fact that you are you, no one else can be you. Find community groups that are intested in things you are into, and don't worry about your standing in your family, if you feel depressed then prehapes talking to your doctor would help. Discover something unique about yourself because you are like a rare jem on the beach of life, sure there are lots of grains of sand, but only a few rare stones.

david the drummer: I agree I take meds for anxiety and depression, I started drumming lessons, swimming, dance lessons, grad school. You don't have to do all that but my point is trying new things and meeting new people has spiced up my life and given me that boost. Also I don't want to get too specific here but finding safe people to tell your deepest problems to, preferably people who have been through similar things, that can be huge. It was for me.
Anything that helps. I don't talk to my family at all these days and its hard and also I've never felt better.
I can tell you have courage and that is going to get you far. A lot of girls really don't have that courage.

seasonswet: With me my siblings only saw me as their second mother. The real one had her hands full with an abusive husband, my dad. Even today they still don't see me and i broke away years ago to have the chance to be me and I find the people I meet respect and acknowledge who I really am, sad that family couldn't do that. Spread your wings and go forward and just be yourself one step at a time.