I'm so lonely (Page 4)
flying carpet: bhen ji..Men can read maps better than women. Cause only the male mind could conceive of one inch equaling a hundred miles...and For, to be a stranger is naturally a very positive relation; it is a specific form of interaction...be wise..hahahahahahaha
flying carpet: not at all. behnji,kisi baat ka jawab is tarah se dena galat hai. anyways..you enjoy iam nowhereeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee in this episode.(pointing to abhishek)..hahahahahahahahahahaha,,,,,
imnewhereeeee: acha brother maaf kar do
konsa episode yar? ek comment kar diya to usme bhi apko paresani h ufffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffff
ye to vohi baat hogayi mandir bana nahi bhikari phele se anne lage
bhai ji ap yanha kyun aaye? caz u lost ur gf & feeling lonely
ab kisi ne kuch bol diya ulta pulta to ap bhi suru hogaye .........sad log ase hi haste h bewaga khair bhai ji mujhe maaf karo i m sorry
ab koi lecture mat dena plssssssssssssssssssssss
Queenslander41M: Loneliness is a killer and sometimes you wonder if its worth being on this earth and keep pushing on.
I get up everyday and just wonder if its worth it.
Love- well sometimes you look for love in stupid places as i have,or is it me that's stupid for even bothering to look for love.
I failed in that department twice already and i dont think that super glue can fix my heart anymore.
flying carpet: still loneliness is loneliness...and whatever and soever you try, you can't escape..its fate..
blinded: hi, headabovewater. Just read your post skipped most of the last ones. lol I was wondering how you are doing now. I found a great web site called pathway to happiness. tc and if you care to talk message me. I was in a 17 year relationship and felt lonely. I'm on my own now with my kids and I'm afraid I'm going to like being on my own. supposed to be a trial separation. my husband wasn't happy about it. I felt I needed this time for myself. I felt too many negative emotions around my husband. I had to get away.
PureSilver67: @ Queenslander41M ... you're not stupid for looking for love - twice in a lifetime, not much at all. Go for it again and again ... yes it hurts when love comes undone, but it's beautiful to be in love. It's also beautiful to surround yourself with the love of friends.
HeadAboveWater: @ Queenslander41M...i’m still in nursery school when it comes to looking for love. Right now, i feel like a cripple even at making friends...i’ve kinda lost touch with most of my friends after they got married and have kids...and being the only one reaching out gets tiring...i can say that the only people in my life right now are my family...and my parents are old. I cherish their presence in my life but i also know they can’t be here forever...and it’s really daunting thinking what my life will be like when they’re gone...right now, i just wanna be grateful for whomever i have.
@ blinded...there’s been a lot of ups and downs. There are times when i think i'm getting used to being alone...but there are also times when it hits me again...the anxiety that comes from having been alone for so long and then wondering if i'm ever gonna come out of it and be okay and be normal and i start questioning myself all sorts of things. But i’m just gonna try my best to think positive and right now, i’m just keeping myself busy. The scary part is when i actually find myself with nothing to do...and the best part is when i’m so busy and tired at the end of the day that i just fall into bed..lol
PureSilver67: maybe (just maybe) think about all the things in your lives that you do have and that you're lucky to have .. things from being able to wake up in a "safe" country each day, or the view you may have from where you live, or the friends you do have, or that you have a home, food, water, can freely go shopping ... and many of these things may sound trivial, but what I'm trying to say is don't focus so much on that there seems to be no-one special just now ... because a lot of the time when you're not actively searching for something, you find it.
s to all in here ... you have a lot of life to live
Queenslander41M: @HeadAboveWater : Everything you have said is what i feel most days.
All my friends are married and have kids,and of course have there own lives.
I can't always go see them or talk to them as they have there own lives and as you said it gets tiring to always reach out to friends when they don't really have the time anymore for you.
In my case i don't have anyone just my mother which isn't well,and still blames me for my father's death...
We had to place him in a home for dementia and she blames me for him passing as her logic was that if he was at home he would be still alive.
So i have to also deal with that on a regular bases.
All i really have in my life is work and if i didn't have that i don't know how i would be handling life.
They are going to force me to take holidays as in the Government you can only have 10 weeks and i have 9 weeks,but i am still fighting not to take any.
If i take holidays i have nothing to do but work.
As everyone says go take holiday go some where and relax and you never know you might meet someone....
That's great but by yourself on holiday is boring and if i meet someone on holiday,what will happen?...that person will move to up to me or I'll move there?...I dont think so...
I'm Tired of people of saying that i am negative,but when you take 5 steps forward and you seem to be getting some where,then you get knocked back 10 steps and have start again you just get sick of it and you give up...That's not negativity that's reality.
My friend kept saying to me when my dad was really ill and i was under so much stress,his advice was to place them all in a home and live my life.
I could never do that,unless i couldn't look after them..
The day came 2 months ago that my friends dad was ill with cancer,and he looked at me and said now i know what you felt and the stress involved.
Reality is that i have to make due being alone and see what life throw's at me...
It looks like for Xmas i will be working on the Mango's and keeping brain active.
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PureSilver67: Queenslander ... my advice is to take the holiday, there is plenty around Cairns to keep you occupied and north and south of it and therefore if you meet someone they are most likely from the area too. I took a holiday to NZ by myself last year - I could stop where I wanted, do what I wanted and I went scuba diving which is a social activity. The only time I kinda felt alone was dinner time and the only other "issue" I had was that I like to go for bush walks but didn't because of safety.
There's also tours. OR go on a group holiday for people of your age group. You don't have to take all 9 weeks of holidays - take 1-2 at a time and see some of this great country of ours. There are plenty of people who meet and are from totally different areas and yes, one moves to the other area. Happens all the time. Even my parents were penpals (USA/ Australia) way back when.
Then there's always hobbies to take up - group ones so that you meet people with similar likes.
all I'm saying is try it ...
HeadAboveWater: I really appreciate all those who have posted here. Really, thank you from the bottom of my heart. I was so down and depressed when i started this thread. And i really ponder on each person’s thread coz it means a lot to me to know there are people who can relate or who care to share how they overcame loneliness. I may not reply so soon but I do so want to show everyone I appreciate your posts..
@ Matthius ... You’re definitely right about talking to people – it helps, yes. However, you also have to find the right people to talk to. And true, being on this site did help me to pour things out that I would have otherwise just kept inside.
@Vic14... Loneliness is perhaps a part of life – a jagged pill to swallow though. Some of the posts here really made me think...perhaps i shouldn’t feel abnormal for feeling lonely and being alone. And you basically summed everything up..even if we do have someone, there’s no guarantee they will be there forever...i’m 34 but i think i’m still figuring out at being my own friend...lol..
@ sophiawxy...i’m trying my best to stay positive. One way i do that is to tell myself there is a purpose for me being here...and maybe being alone for this time is to help me find that purpose..i dunno..
@alfalz...i so agree with you...i can say prayers have helped me so much...really, that is the only thing that keeps me sane sometimes..
@PureSilver67...your positivity is inspiring and you are right, so right about being grateful for what we have. I don’t want to think of myself as an envious person...but i'm ashamed to say that although i do feel happy for my friends who are settled down and happy, there are also times when i do feel a tinge of envy too...like a tiny voice saying why can’t i have that too. i’m ashamed to admit this actually. I know it’s wrong. Being grateful for the basics is definitely a start to feeling unconditionally happy and not having these negative feeling crop up on me...you're a great lady!
@Queenslander41M...i can’t imagine the stress that you must have been through, with your dad having dementia and now, your mum blaming you for his passing. I must say that i don’t agree with your friend’s advice either coz when i was young, i wanted to break away from my parents but now...i really come to appreciate them, no matter what shortcomings they may have. My life would be emptier without them. And you’re a good guy for wanting to look after your parents as much as you can. I guess it was a tough decision for you to put your dad in a home.
Keeping busy is my strategy now. I’m currently working and studying...and that helps to keep me occupied most of the time.