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xcitme
xcitme: I am married, my relationship is sensational. My wife and i chat online, she has online bfs and i have online gfs, its fun n exciting. We even chat online too each other. Of cause we talk in real life. We allow each other freedom to chat too others, that is the art of communication right there. It works a treat. Find people online who you can chat too and share your thoughts. Maybe flirt and even cam too, which will make you feel special and maybe even sexy. You can start chatting too your hubby online too, share your thoughts. This works because you are not looking at each other face too face. I am sure once you start this, you will begin chatting in real life. Talk too each other about your online friends, its a good conversation opener. It gets you too talking about everything about life in general. Good luck. Be interested to know if this works for you. tc
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JustCallmeShe
JustCallmeShe: Its sad that so many ppl are unhappy in their marriage. I been married 9 yrs and I think you gotta except that some days (weeks/months/years) are goin to be better then others. Talking about its the only cure. If he/she wont listen try a long letter telling how you feel. Sounds silly but it works. My marriage keeps surviving and we are happy....course we dont have kids so I kno nothing about that part. Good Luck ppl
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anniead12
anniead12: WOW! i guess i am glad i am not the only one. On 29 December 2011 i will have been married three years. The first year was great going out and having fun and lots of sex but by 2009 is all changed. Barely talks to me when he comes home from work he goes straight into the bedroom and stays there until i let him know dinner is ready. Kisses me occasionally on the cheek never on the lips and pushes my hand away if i try to touch him. Drinks (sometimes we have no money for food but he always has his beer and cigarettes) every Friday and Saturday night and if it is a holiday on Monday will drink on Sunday night then sleeps all Saturday and Sunday because he has had so much to drink the night before. I have no passion or romance from him anymore and i have spoken to him, wrote him letters told him what i would like but nothing changes. I am not that old and i do not want to spend the rest of my life like this.
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anbinh_1981
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pr_girl
pr_girl: Do a google search with a word marriage and see what articles can help you.
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Abhi_p
Abhi_p: just dance always then u feel happy and accept the sitaution watch cartoons watch flowers then u will feel busy and happy
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alissak
alissak: hi... im also lonely in my marriage.. so strange that i lived with this man for 16 years and now i dont feel a thing for him
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Abhi_p
Abhi_p: then check ur brain u have some mental probs
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xcitme
xcitme: i thing a marriage is a work in progress. u both have too grow together. talking to each other is the key.
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june12bug
june12bug: I think marriage is a work in progress and it needs two. I have been so tired of everything being on me lately and he wont even turn off his game on the two nights I am home. I feel like I am not worth it. I ask and he says well give me some time first and then I do and what happens he needs another hour and I am just exhausted and go to bed. We have 3 children. One of who is special needs. I take care of them. I work nights and I go to school. I am just so tired of him just playing the game not helping to help or cook or even acknowledge me. I only get two nights a week off and he cant even find an hour to spend with me. he works 7 am to 330pm comes home and complains if I am in the middle of putting up laundry and it is not automatically done. Or something is out of place. I mean I am in school 8 am until 2 pm everyday. I pick up the kids and come home get homework done, dinner done, do a load of laundry and then head off to work at 7pm. He doesn't talk nice to me anymore he doesn't acknowledge I am more than a maid, babysitter, and then he wonders why I am not in the mood for sex when he finally gets off his game. I don't know what more I can do. I try talking to him but he is talking online to guys and I need to be quiet. I try doing everything for him. I get up at 5 everyday to pack lunches make breakfast and get everything in order for us. I just am tired of having no one to talk too. All I talk to is kids. Does anyone know what I can do so my husband will at least look at me again?
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Carolina Barbie
Carolina Barbie: Wow had no idea we were a SPECIES lol. A wife that can relate to many of the testimonies!
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xcitme
xcitme: i understand what u r saying. u get more stimulation from your online friends. u just want too feel needed, respected and loved. he is chatting too guys only online?
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della brown
della brown: hello everyone
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Lick
Lick: I know the feeling. Been married for 16 but the last 5 have been very miserable.
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spicingitup
spicingitup: I can relate to all of this....after 9 years of marriage and 2 kids he is sooooo checked out emotionally. We've talked things over and are trying to save the marriage, but really it's only for the kids. I was really invested in it, but he seems to be going through the motions of trying only. How long do we keep up the pretence for the kids? We never argue, because we rarely talk about anything significant. Just his work and what the kids did that day, if anything. I've just started working on my own self-esteem and getting ready to have my own future. I really don't think we should be setting an example for the kids of having to marytr ourselves when we're plainly not happy together. On the other hand, I don't want the kids to have to go through the split up. He has been online with other women for years instead of being part of the family, so if I leave, I don't think he'll be suffering, So that's why I'm getting myself together. I refuse to beg for his attention when he clearly doesn't want me. At least it doesn't feel like a kick in the gut anymore.
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savy453
savy453: one suggestion , communication sounds like you both do your own thing,sit down and ask him the emotional things , i ve been in your shoes, talk is cheap divorce isn;t !
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spicingitup
spicingitup: I've tried that....... he just insists he doesn't want to lose the kids. When I say does he want to lose me? there's no answer to that question. So, I'm left to think he doesn't really care that much about me. Over the years I've tried to share in the things he's interested in, but as soon as he sees this, he becomes disinterested in those things. He's never tried to be interested in what I do that I can tell. But it's OK. I've gotten used to it. I'm just tired of being stagnant in this relationship. My kids and I deserve better.
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savy453
savy453: very true well since you make a attemp its time you start living your life now , obviously he has so so should you .
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spicingitup
spicingitup: thanks for the support. i thought i had lost all my hopes and dreams, but i'm finding they were just packed away. a little dusty, but they're still there.
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savy453
savy453: u never loose your hopes and dreams they change but have faith , they will come back once your in a better state
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nicks_s
nicks_s: Shocked to see all these posts... I think its better to stay alone then staying with a wrong partner in life.. Sad these things are...
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grg321
grg321: So I am in a sexless mariage and I found a new venu for my life I am now Bisexual and I love it. If you are in the Toronto area and feel like playing get intouch grg321@gmail.com
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grandpamoose
grandpamoose: I was married twice.and both wive cheated on me due to I was working to support her while she stayed at home.1 marriage was 2 years and the other was 15 years with 3 kids,After the divorce i was alone a couple of lonely years.but Now I have a live in girlfriend.and we are doing the same as you.I dont want it.I feel trapped,caged ,so Im saving up and moving out.I was happy when I was married to my 2nd wife.And actually loved her deeply until last year (10 years after divorce).But let it be known .Im here to talk to if you wish to talk.grandpamoose@aol.com.and I will pray for you.I know how bad it feels.ALONE IS NOT BETTER .BUT MAY HELP YOU RECOOPERATE.
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spicingitup
spicingitup: I was living alone before I met my husband, and it was good. But then again, I didn't have 2 kids. I almost didn't marry him..... I freaked out in the hotel lobby before the ceremony and told my mother I was going to be trapped. She made me calm down and go through with it. I should have trusted my instincts. Now I'm trapped. I'm also not living in the US, but in his country, where the laws are different about divorce and right to reside. I don't want the kids to lose their father...... I want to lose him but good.
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