relationships gizzy1977: what would you do if you were in a relationship and you have to practically beg for the person to notice you?  Sorceress Warrior: Get out of the relationship, no man or woman has to degrade themselfs to get attention in a relationship. If attention is being witheld then it is emotional abuse, no one needs to suffer that cruelity, get out and take time to re-discover your self-esteem and strengh. Sorceress Warrior: please icnore punk4life, he's immature and only causing trouble by stirring things up.  bahcatcha: i wouldnt put up with it, but fotunately i dont have to, i am in an excellent relationship with a woman who is 17 years younger than me. But I would have to say, anyone who does put up with abuse of any kind is seriously desperate. VancouverSarah: Have you considered shuffling the kids off for the weekend? Maybe take a trip together? Some time to unwind and reconnect might help. PerpetualDreamer: Relationships are never simple. After years, and with children, walking away is difficult. I recommend discussing the situation with a counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist, especially if there are religious considerations involved. It is a decision you need to make. Please seek local, professional advice that is not on-line. Good luck.  TopherMC: I am not going to jump out and say you should walk away from the relationship. I find it to be the biggest problem now-a-days, people give up on relationships too easy. Without knowing if it is actually emotional abuse or simply two people growing apart and thus become uninterested in each other. Back when I was a teenager, my parents split up simply because they grew apart, Both my mother and my father were excellent parents whom I have a great relationship. They split up because after 13 years, they simply had not common interest anymore. The best thing to do if that is the case is to take time away from the kids and spend time doing the things that attracted you to each other in the first place - common interest - and make sure to do it on a regular basis, not just over a weekend... if it doesn't work walking away may be the best option, becuase if you are in a realtionship where you are not 100% happy, it effects work, friendships and your ability to be a mother. I know it is very hard to walk away from a relationship. When Kids are involved it is important to understand what effect that may have on the kids. A divorce/separation can be very tough on children (especially of a certain age), however, in my experiance, the children growing up with a disfunctional relationship may have more of a long term impact than you understand. Your son may grow up to believe that behaviour is what a relationship is, and your daughter may grow up tolerating an emotionally abusive relationship. Nessy69: It is easy to say "get out" when there are no kids invovled, it is hard when there are kids invloved _rems_: i would say you try for the sake of your kids..relationships are hard and if i were in your situation, i wouldn't want my children to miss out on having a father figure in their lives. communicate with your man and tell him how you feel...if he continues to be oblivious to you then you can think about what your next move should be from then  flykila: well relationship is two people saying yes to each other because of attraction but becaue both love each other, being in a realtionship dont promise a easier road, it will be complicated with out the probelems you will never learn about the other person that you are with, well walking away wont solve the problems but facing it together make the bonds that you have a little bit stronger then we have love will be stronger CatLady45: maybe you should try and talk to him, and figure out whats the problem, first and if he does not want to talk then try something else.  iworkalone: my bf hasnt talked to me today yet, this has happened a couple times, and thats when his past has come to haunt him, or his mom was dragging him around, ive met his mom and shes strict but im not sure i believe that, and with the person from his past, he said he would talk to me if that person came over again, he doesnt like that person and not trust it, he recently got a new game, and he said yesterday it was cool and adicting, but would a game really distract him that much? he usowaly still talks to me still. his mother can take away the internet since thats the only way we can talk right now cause his dog chewed up his charger, but he would still try and talk to me from his moms phone, i just got a notificcation on my phone, i hope its him, if not idk what to do, help iworkalone: it was him, but im mad and sad that he didnt talk to me, its not normal, should i be concerned? or am i just expecting to much and over reacting?  Thor213: relationships are Bidirectional and i see its been a month since your last post. if your still feeling the way you have been when you read..  CurvyKooky: It's so hard to find a man...That isn't a fake a player a jerk etc...Just want a loving relationship..Its easier to get blood out of a stone...  Thor213: i must be doing some thing wrong because i seem to get more blood out of my self then stone... lol clever comment kooky iworkalone: My relationship is still all good wow that's how long me n him have been together, amazing (Post deleted by vetigo ) | Self-Improvement Chat Room Similar Conversations |