whats being a mom like? any tips (Page 2)
fairgojustsaying: No one knows how it will turn out or be like, it's a stab in the dark for many, for some mothering comes naturally.......it's an ongoing learning experience that's for sure, good, bad, sad, trying, sheer happiness and so on.
_MaMaZeN_: It's a wonderful thing. How? You have to go through it yourself to really understand. Hard work? Of course been that way since beginning of time. But it's all worth it later on. Hope all's doing well with you and the little ones.
mina8297: For me I like children, l have one daughter and I want more .my financial situation is not good,so now I am studying. To find agood. Job in future.
Comrade_: Not a mom but I noticed you said dads too. It's a beautiful thing, yeah the hard work is there, I'm not sure how it is for everyone but my son keeps me sane. I've lost a lot but he's there with me..think when you look at it, a kid can teach you more about yourself though it can be nerve wrecking at times cus you have the most influence in their lives.
I don't have much tips, only that you become their best friend, always open and remember how it was to be a kid and how hard it is for them too. Lots of patience and love. I think that by even seeking out advice shows you are care for them already. All the best.
ps congrats, I hope you have help as it can be physical hard work with 2.
yvonnechvz03: I became a mom at 17 and had my second child at 18 it was difficult with my son because I lived with my parents and my boyfriend (husband now) lived with his so I was basically on my own to take care of my son but while i studied my mom would help take care of him sometimes so I could finish my homework and there would be weekends when my boyfriend wouldn't come over to help and than soon he left to boot camp and I was pregnant and taking care of a baby wasn't easy going to college and work but I did it and than my second baby was born and we got married and been raising them. we had our third baby by choice 2 years ago. it hasn't been easy but its not hard either being a military wife u pretty much raise your children on your own because they work long hours or there being deployed or have work stuff to do so you help the kids with there homework, discipline them and everything else. and try to stretch the money as far as possible. As long as your determined and have some sort of support you will go a long ways and when you get hugs and kisses and told your love daily or thank full that your their mom it all worth it.
GinnyTx: I want to reassure you mom's it's TOUGH, don't get me wrong, went from two huge incomes to swtiching to mommy hours in nursing, at the tender age of 30 w/a ten year old and five year old then, made a commitment to them as I moved around a lot to stay in the same school system as they started in, along with supporting them and me alone, it's almost over 17 years of it and it's well just to reassure you all it does get better and wonderful!
Now you gals alone, get a support system, friends girls night out doesnt have to be expensive, family, they're there, hopefully friends at least it's like going to the park then, I hated those rich soccer mom's but damned if the buddy system paid off and "they" all women you'll find are more alike that you think!!
bri: i'm a new young mom and so far everything i go through is all worth it for my child he completes me and me and my man are doing everything in our power to make sure our boy is secure and taken care of.
bri: im great tired but great i got my lil man in my arms and nothing could be more perfect and thx ruby
laurenspencer: Im a mom to a 7 month old daughter, she is breastfeeding and there is nothing like it. but I agree with the otheres you have to be finiancially stable and have a good relationship with your mate or spouse and having your parents close by are an omen too.
cinderfreakinella: I'm a single mother of three children, ages 7, 6, and 4 1/2. It is rough at times, but there is a satisfaction, and a kind of peace that comes from bringing a small person into the world and helping them navigate through their early years. It can be a lot of fun, conversely, it can also be very frustrating. You will not always like your children, but you will always love them. And if you can focus outside of yourself, and your situation, they can bring you untold amounts of joy, and happiness.
jimsant: Being a mom is like real dreams to a women,because it will be the first day of your life that you will see the face of your child and you will be the most happiest mom in the world.....
jimsant: Without mom the world will be unbalance, because mom are the face of the earth and moms are the one who loved and know what is good for all of us, moms are the best thing in the world........
liztmich: I found my newborn a breeze... and at 7 months she is still a breeze all she wants to do is play, sleep, and eat... and i enjoy every minute of it with her. Being a parent is easy if you make it that way... What i'm saying is don't get to complicated about raising her and keep it simple! The more you make something complicated the more stressed out you will be..... At least that is what works for me
Ninja1538: My mom didn't really know how to teach us. I found her to be really greedy, lazy, and she thinks she very smart. (Sorry mom. lol)
So ya, I think you mothers should at least change a bit to set a good example to your children.
Don't control your child too much, let them make their own choices. But make sure you separate from what's right and what's wrong. Being a bit strict is fine.
unicorn1: I love being a mam (sorry, can't do the mom thing here lol). And out of all the tons of advice i got, some was useful, some was dreadful. The one thing no one ever told me though was something I had to discover for myself. You have a baby, and suddenly theres this overwhelming feeling from every corner of your life...parents, friends, media etc, that this new baby is now the most important thing in your life. And while that may very well be true, the assumption doesnt stop there. It actually goes on to put you in an inferior position to the baby. It's assumed that you will do without, sacrifice, everything for your baby's welfare. Now don't get me wrong, as far as I'm concerned, that baby is your responsibility, and while it's still a baby, it's every need is your concern. The problem is, that somehow at this stage, I've actually seen grown men and women literally become brainwashed by the "this is my child, I must do everything for it / get everything for it" school of thought. They take a back seat and allow this kid to become the ruler of the roost. Which is fine........until the kid hits about three, and all hell breaks loose. Unless you treat your child with respect and as a human being of EQUAL importance to you, then you will end up with a child who treats you the same way.....as an inferior. I'm sure some are going to read this comment as an attack on looking after your kids properly, or a tough love thing...to them id just have to say, please read again and see if it's what you thought you read. I love my kid. As a baby, I did everything for her. As a toddler, I began to show her that her way, was not always going to happen......not because of safety issues, or because mam knows best, but sometimes, just because mam wants to do it this way, and guess what? its mam's turn, and mam is just as entitled to her way sometimes are you are. Result? I have a kid that respects me, understands the equality between us, and considers other peoples needs and wants along with her own. Took me a bit of working out in the beginning and I've no idea why no one ever clued me into it when they were giving me all the advice on how to get baby sick out of car seats or whatever.....all i can think of is, it's still not very p.c. to admit that for the sake of sanity, the baby doesnt always come first
Bumpa: I have 6 kids from previous marriages. My wife has none and would love a baby. Having had 6 has not put me off number 7.
Sure it's damn hard work. It's heartbreaking at times, you never have enough money for the things you want, much of the time none for even the necessities, but if we wait till we can afford kids, we'll never have them.
I can't even begin to describe the joys my kids bring me, people ask me how I divide my love between 6, I say bullshit to that, you don't divide your love, you MULTIPLY it!
BTW don't think the hard part is over when labour is finished. That's the easy bit, hard part is the next 20 or 30 years.
MrsRobinson78: Perfect chaos....I'm a foster parent and have a 2mo old, a 4yr old, a 7yr old, and my own 10 yr old.
Bumpa: Hats off to you Mrs Robinson. I always admire a person who takes on foster kids, these kids are often from dysfunctional homes and can be very challenging. I wish you the very best of luck.
Hope you have a supportive husband and you're not raising the kids on your own. I raised 3 of mine as a single Dad while also in a wheelchair. My home was chaotic alright! My personal life totally disappeared and my finances took a massive dive so I couldn't have afforded a personal life anyway.
Was it worth it?