Is here any 1 who hates theır father? (Page 3)
ApachesGirl: I totally agree rritter. But DNA does not mean that we have to have anything to do with the people who hurt us.
ApachesGirl: I was always told that any man can be a father... but it takes someone special to be a Dad. I stand by that 100% to this day. My son has a man in his life that is not his real dad... but my husband treats Jo like he is. 8 months ago we had our beautiful daughter.... and my husband still treats my son the same way he always has. It just goes to show you that many men can be Dad's. But there are a few who can not man up and be a Daddy to their babies.
JeanYves72: Being a father is a heart condition. It is love that makes a father a dad. Unconditional love where the child knows that they don't have to 'earn' the love and pride of him. That it is a natural feeling that is truly heart felt.
ApachesGirl: I know exactly why my father isn't here. You maybe right when you say that often times mothers make the Dad's look bad. But for me this is not the case. My father simply wanted to get drunk and beat on my Mom and my brother and me. So for our safety my Mom took us and left. I went to see him when I was 15 and he told that I was a mistake and that he wished he never had me. Now tell me that my father is a "great" guy. A good Dad would NEVER say that to their child.
JeanYves72: He is not a dad. He is a sperm donor. Nothing more. At least he did one thing right. Created you. Which in turn brought the pure beauty of your kids into the world.
ApachesGirl: I totally agree Jean. When I was little and he left I never wanted to be a "burden" to him.... and I don't want my kids to be a burden on him.
JeanYves72: My dad just played favourites with his grandkids. Hasn't seen my Wookie, his first one, since he was 6 months old. Has lived with my sister and has spent a lot of time with them. Tried to use them as pawns with his mind games between my sister and me. She is more like him than me. She played along. Now have nothing to do with her. Shits me that there are parents out there that have their kids thinking they need to 'earn' their love. Utter bullshit.
ApachesGirl: My father has NEVER seen my babies... and he never will. I will not put my kids in the same situation that I was in when I was a kid. I have always told myself that if anyone EVER lifted a hand to my kids I would break their fingers. I will never allow that man to hurt my kids, not only physically but emotionally as well.
ApachesGirl: Well Jean I was kinda being nice... now a days with internet and shit anything you say can come back on you.. and I would rather that NOT happen.
ApachesGirl: Might wanna check the Jean... . I'm serious though.... the internet can get you into some MAD trouble. So I am careful what I say. Even though I would kill anyone for hurting my babies.... but my father expecally.
JeanYves72: How can we forgive ourselves when we are the innocents as children? We are supposed to have the unconditional love of our parents. To have them not play with our emotions, minds or spirit. I have experienced rejection at the time I needed my father the most. I was a kid. So you need to pull your head out of your arse and get a reality check.
JeanYves72: There is a difference between love for all and just plain living in a Pippi Longstocking kind of world. You are in a drug induced version of the 2nd dude. You sound like you love your hand more. There is nothing, NOTHING a child does that they need to forgive themselves for. NOTHING warrents a child having to 'earn' the love of their father.
shoe_maker10: hi .... not important the bad things around us but the more important the bad things in our selves ,to keep it clean we must love every thing ,let us give the world the some nice ,don't let it give us ?