My daughter is a unfit mother what would you do?
pinebluffpearl: my daughter has a 1yr old little pretty as ever baby girl, she treats the baby as though she would do somthing to harm her, i need to know what to do the CPS have an open case on her as of now, they do not see what i see. she does not feed baby nothing but cookies candy and drinks, she has bottle rot on her teeth and she is underweight and can not walk because her mommy has neglect taking her off of bottle because it is the simple way in feeding her. her legs are fragile and only one side of her mouth has teeth and they are rotten.
Topsyturvy: Sounds like grandma needs to become permanent caretaker. At least until your daughter grows up and takes responsibility.
oldtimeracer: You need to contact CPS immediately and tell them the same thing you just told us. Those kids need to be taken care of NOW.
Low_Rider: break a foot off in your daughters ass and take those kids away from her ..and if you cant do it that way get cps involved ... save the babies..or you can break a foot off in her ass and call cps
flashie: PLEASE DONT GET CPS INVOLVED WHATEVER YOU DO.
can you use your immediate fam and friends to help? im sure you can influence your daughter, even threaten her with cps and let her know they will take her child away... ive heard proper horror stories about cps - they certainly wont take care of your grandchild, its no substitute for the ppl you already know and trust.
pricelessPearl: Thats very poor health for your grandbaby. Get legal advice and take the child off your daughter. Tell her once she gets her act together then the child will be returned to her.
Teece: I agree. The child has got to be taken away from her and looked after properly. Getting the child agencies involved would be the last resort though as once a child is in care, it is hard to get them out of that scene.
Also, their is a vast amount of abuse that can go on in foster homes. In some ways it could be trading bad for bad......
The child needs to be with family if at all possible...
snickets: i have to agree with whoever said not to involve cps. They seem to have their own agenda and are in the baby-taking business on top of that they will make your life a nightmare. Your doughter doesn;t seem to be capable of caring for her own child so if at all possibble keep it within the family circle.
specialgirl: Do wat eva you can to make your daughter understand that wat she is doing is wrong and if she dosent then go to the police and cps they need to know and they will give you the option os being the career or someone else from your family just do wat needs to be done...
zxy8: Do what is in the best interest of the child. Even if u need to get custody of the child yourself.
ajtta112: I too urge you not to involved cps... I have personal experience with them and I did everything that was required and got my kids back, but 3 of my boys were molested by the foster father, and when i reported it after the case was closed they didnt even want to accept responsibility and pretty much made sure that any attempt i made to seek justice was swept under the carpet. Still to this day that family and father is undoubtedly still a foster family. However it may be effective for a trusted family member or friend to take the baby temporarily. hopefully that will jolt the mom to step up to the plate. Unfortunately i have known of too many that just let their own children go to live their own selfish lives
lostgirl245: i agree, do not involve dcs. they mean well but there the biggest screw ups , kids go to foster homes, group homes, etc. i know i am a foster kid, lived in them for five years. dont call them if you dont have to. use family, friends, neighbors. kids belong with family.
Hyenablood: not every foster family is a den of monster, and not every family is loving and good. My family has fostered lots of kids, and we are not demons, instead we are the normal family. I've seen it over and over again where the biological family is nothing but a bunch of criminals, backstabbers, theives, liers, and do not have the kid's best intresst in mind.
I was adopted, and I've seen kids that meet their biological parents, and it all fall apart, the parents are no good and the kid was better off not knowing them.
Remember: not everything is black and white, there are lots of shades of grey.
Morsy: Do something now....it is urgent....hope you can take on the child rather than foster her....yes there are good foster homes but ideally the child is better off with you by the sounds of things. All the best.
Malobear: Hey PineBluff, My parents live near Blytheville. Alot of my family live in that area,but most live in Seminole county Oklahoma. They are native americans and live on the reservation. The reservation you know has alot of drug abuse and alcohol problems. Some people on the reservations have had children taken away because of these problems. The problem with SS as we call them. Is if they take the child, the foster homes in and around that area are not good. If you can afford to add the child to your insurance, you could get the child the heathcare it needs. It is also possible to contact St. Judes in Memphis,Tenn They are a non-profit hospital that treats kids as Im sure you have heard their telethons thru the years. I work for Duke University and work for Anesthesia in their operating rooms. Tell me if there is anything, Im no doctor but I work with some of the best in this country. Maybe some calls can be made. Sorry about the trials your going thru sister.
Animal Lover: How could she only have teeth on one side of her mouth when the front ones come in first?
harlett: I'd have forced my daughter to have handed over and signed that baby girl over too me giving her no choice long time ago ....and taken care of that baby myself .and then not permit her too just lay with in the home where i was busy actually taking care of children... hers mine ... who ever's ...
smash3522: Sounds like your daughter is just and uneducated parent, she needs to be taught how to take care of a child the right way, if she cares about here baby she should be willing to learn. If she wont try and get custody.
toolillate: I know it must be hard seeing as it is your daughter but you should pull some stuff up on your comp and show her what can happen to her child if she continues to do what she is doing. She is going to kill that baby. Step up and raise her as your own for your grand child's sake.
Samma: I'd offer to babysit & make an appt to take ur granddaughter to the doctors for a good check up. If you feel she may harm her little girl then there is every possibility that she may have already been harmed. Depending on what happens at docs, u can either take the lil one home and have a good heart to heart try and get thru 2 her. If the doctor suspects child abuse or neglect then you need to seek legal advice. I hope it all works out for you, 2 of my sisters kids live with my mam, but her baby is in foster care. No child should ever have to suffer because a parent just can't be bothered.
PeaceyisTwisted: If you hesitate to contace social services when you see abuse, you are just as liable as the terrible mother in the first place. Contact CPS, this poor little human's life is at stake.
kritz0: I do not agree with the comments about not contacting child protective services.
Having a lawyer on your side isn't a bad idea.
Know your rights as a grandparent, I'm not from the USA but Canadian laws mimic American laws.
Try to gain custody and the fact there is already an open case on your daughter will only help you in the long run.
It usually takes several complaints before CPS actually moves in to remove a child, not just one complaint.
All you need is one problem that has not been resolved to help your case, since it is already filed with CPS.
But, you have to have sufficient financial stability and be able to prove you can provide better care.