How old is to old? (Page 6)
Bumpa: Chubby, some people find kids the greatest joy of their lives and never want them to move out. My oldest son is 30 with 3 little boys and I would love them to move into our spare house or even into our home which is too big anyway. As for the dying bit, I think having a loving parent for just 20 or so years is infinitely preferable to having an uncaring parent for 50 years. It's not wrong to have baby at a later age and you are wrong sorry.
kriskim: i'm 31 and my man is 43. i know ppl might think that's too old, i'm not sure.
he says if biologically you're not too old then you're not too old.
i think i worry more about other things than age now that we're planning, like my weird upbringing & having been a smoker/drinker/recreational drug user
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Mimee_red: You are never TOO old for anything in life be it beginning a new career, changing your hairstyle, having children, study more, make new life altering decisions or make love....all you need is a positive attitude and belief in urself that u are going to live the rest of ur life being true to ur inner self....
baby641226: I don't think that is too old because my dad is 71 right now and was 55 when I was born my mom died at 52 and was 42 when she had me
Lookin4mybff: Neither of you are two old. It's natural for you to want another child and him to be settled in his ways at this point in life. He is thinking about energy levels, expenses, the age he will be when the children grow up and how much time he would get to spend one on one with you when you guys are older. He is looking like a lot of people his age to the golden age of just you and him dedicating the golden yrs to one another. Are these children you already have his and your bio children? If so you could look at it as your gifts and then embrace the gift of growing older together traveling and living out your dreams after they grow up. Even if they are step children as I have it's not the connection of a little one made of us, but the love for them and now raising teenagers is finally having me saying I don't think I can handle anymore kids, lol I also have two grown step children. In the end you have to decide how much you love your husband. Are you willing to compromise and stay with him or is this a deal breaker? It's a tough decision; use your heart as it is not easy to find a good man or woman.. If you are a great couple then keep it that way. Maybe another way to satisfy your ticking clock? not the same but a distraction such as rescue of an animal or volunteering with animals, kids or elderly. Something you can use those nurturing instincts on until you and your husband can talk this through. It's a tough emotional decision, so give one another time to think about it without talking about it constantly, but do try to come to understand, respect and compromise as this is a very important emotional growth area that can bring you closer if the solution is a compramise of equalness.
Lookin4mybff: Two different wants and age topics posted here. Advise I gave can be vice versa and used for whomever does and doesn't want more kids
yvonnechvz03: I don't think so my dad was 73 and my mom was 47 when they had me 27 years ago even though growing up my dad left my mom to parent me while he was out side working around the yard and didn't like a lot of noise.
kpenerton: Age in not about time it is all about change in a cosmic consciousness. Time is irrelevant
Mimee_red: And its never too old to fall in love bcos the heart only recognizes that special something that is a little more than trust or faith.
Bumpa: I dunno about a change in cosmic consciousness Kpenerton, whatever you mean by that. It's entirely a matter of your attitude. My kids think I'm getting old, my wife thinks I'm going on 16!
maccs73: Age is just a number, I am 57 and wife is 62 and we adopted beautiful girl form China who is now 11. Having her actually makes us feel younger. We eat right, do not smoke or do drugs.
I know several people who worked until they were in their 90's.