i want kids but im only 19. am i too young to be a father? (Page 9)

jolieluv: today 3 of my 19 yrs old girl friends brought their babies for our night club dancing practice on the stage. 1,2,3, we passed our 1 and 2 yrs old babies from one arm to the others, so much fun and the babies were laughing all the time and after tat we breast fed them. we leave them to our moms' care at night when we work..and we can't be happy more. i think if a girl got pregnant, she needs her family supports especially her mom.

jolieluv: just when did a 19 yrs old guy ever think of becoming a father? girls always have thought abt having babies of their own but not guys at tat age. there r guys of 19 yrs old cries like babies when told abt news of them becoming a father...and they just disappeared without a trace.i don't like this question. it should be more positive aimed at the young mothers wat they would do if they had kids at 19.

Beautiful_Rose_: You not to young if it what you want go for it!

dave3974: you are to young do not go for it

Big Bopper: You are too young for children. You should live a little: travel, try different jobs, live in a few towns and countries. The more you do before having babies, the more you will have to teach them.

Hazel88: well nowadays he is 23...

Blackshoes: I have seven Children .I love them all .I'm too young .Live for a wile before you take on such big responsibility

purpledocs916: I had my first child at 20. We planned her and went on to have two more children. I wouldn't change a thing but in hindsight I know life would have been easier if we had waited until we were older. My children are all adults now and I tell them to wait until they're 30s. You should wait until your older and enjoy each others company and the ability to be compulsive and selfish. Because with a baby you must be organized and selfless.

StephyLee: I'm too immature to be a mother. I don't have a job, I don't have any responsibility, I'm disorganize, I don't know how to raise a kid.

StephyLee: I can't take care of myself, how can I raise a child. Plus, my parents weren't really that good at supporting me, which effected me a lot.

pro_chatter_smash: go out smash as many chicks as u can , get drunk a lot , party , play sports as often as you can whilst developing a career or talent you are passionate about. When u get to your early 30s and have money saved up, nice car, nice job, nice house marry a 21 yr old model and have a few mistresses on the side. then maybe think about kids

don't waste good years having a kid so young it will tie you down!

the end !

weiwang: be a man , do the right things.. do the whatever you think worth..good luck mate.

demented diode: If you are emotionally mature enough go 4 it

wayne elliott: The first post on this thread was 5 years ago, so you are now 24 years old. The question is, did you have children at the tender age of 19, did you wait and get to experience some of the world first, or are you still childless?

It is probably better to experience the world before becoming a parent. Parenting at a young age might result in feeling you missed out on youth later on.

LadyLoki89: Speaking as a parent, I thought I was ready at 18... I didn't have my first til I was 24. Now that I'm raising a baby I can honestly say I'm glad I didn't have one when I THOUGHT I was ready. It's a lot more tiring and stressful than I anticipated, but still comes with all that good stuff. Still... I do miss sleep sometimes... oh god how I miss sleep...

wayne elliott: Lady, raising kids is the toughest job in the world - it's also the most important.

Laura _: Yes to young...go to College!

CinnamonPrincess: do u have a job that u can keep? do u make enough to support ur kid? can u put others needs before ur wants? can u manage without relying on others at all? be real with urself cause kids cant raise kids

Secret Mastermind: Princess makes a good point

Secret Mastermind: I also would like to add if you are going to have kids do not bank on the fact they will get to college on their own. Plan to save up in case they need assistance when they get older. As well as that if they want to work dont tell them its bad since they wont get into college since in reality many college students work while in college. So all of that is a leg up and telling them its bad is going to hurt them later on when they really need it.

CinnamonPrincess: Im just gonna say its probably best to wait to be 100% sure u have all ur shit together, kids are a big thing shouldnt be had on a whim, its not like getting a pet or anything, its a permanent decision so if u wind up regretting it cause things dont work out, guess whos stuck in the situation? u and ur kid/s not only that- what happens if u have more than one at a time? it happens, u better have ur head on straight if u thinkin bout jumpin in that pool.

SuperNovanika85: Think about building their future and their college tuition, and how many trips to the doctors. You will make a ton of sacrifices. Most parents have their kids at 40 nowadays! Sorry to say this but shits hitting the fan with your generation.

Secret Mastermind: @Super&Princess That would be ideal but a lot of kids have kids without thinking about the child's future. They just say "Oh lets have a kid"! and a lot of parents even one which say they care do not prepare for the childs future. This is not just a poor parent thing either. A lot of middle class parents dont prepare for their child's future either.

They dont put away a college fund they just wait till the child is 18 and either kick them out and hope they make enough for college. They also do not think to prepare for "What if my child does not get into college" and will do everything to hinder things which would help the child if college does not happen like "Getting a job". Getting a job at 16 is very very discouraged by a lot of schools and parents if you are getting under a B.

Which is illogical since clearly the B students are going to be getting a LOT of money to college while C and under are probably a lot less likely to get money if they want college so working would be the best option. However the stupid perception says "Working at 16 while going to school means NO COLLEGE and everyone that means everyone need to go to college even though government does not set it up where everyone can actually attend because its so expensive".

CinnamonPrincess: i know whats going on, im jus sayin if someone that age is curious if he or she is ready, they really arent but at least the thought process of consideration of being ready or not is present.

SuperNovanika85: exactly