i want kids but im only 19. am i too young to be a father? (Page 5) a_Robin: No, 19 is not too young aslong as you are absolutely sure, but the fact that you have doubted yourself makes me think you are too young, sorry  jwade24: If you can find a good job right now and manage to take care of your family then go ahead and do it. I do mean a real job though. Something that really is going to bring in money because it will take alot to take care of just the kid alone. I think you should wait at least a few years if not more.  XoxMizzLilyxoX: Personally I Dont Thinks So Cause I Was 16 When I Had My Oldest Daughter And Now She Is 5 And Honestly My Daughters And My Son Are The Best Thing That Ever Happened Too Me Syren83: I could completely over react here but I won't. 19 is not too young, however, if you don't have a good stable job yet or have one coming up then it is not best. kids cost way too much. you have to figure child care or if your g/f stays home you have to live off of one income. near impossible to do in this day and age but it is possible. as long as you are completely sure that you want to spend the rest of your life with just her then go for it. but I advise you to go out and explore first. I had my first at 20 years old. I wish I had waited and spent the time to explore and date etc. Lots of things to consider.  CourtGesture: My advice to you would to be to think of what is in the best interest of the child. Leaving it for a few more years would have certain advantages for him/her in the long run. First of all, your financial stability would benefit that child in the long run, and not just in the immediate term. Someday you may want to put that child through college or university. Building a career now and putting off childbearing will assist you in this. Also, the health of your relationship with girlfriend will have a direct influence on that child's happiness and stability, not just when it is a baby but, indeed, throughout it's adolescence and into adulthood. Now, I don't wanna sound like an "old man", but giving your relationship with her time to mature and strengthen will mean a more stable environment in which that child can grow an prosper. I would give it a few years, during which time you can build a strong "foundation" on which to raise a family. Make fatherhood a goal and use it an an incentive to do things now, like continuing with school, building a career, saving up for a down payment on a mortgage, etc, and good luck.  (Post deleted by staff ) CourtGesture: LOL....Who knows if he's even read this in the past two years. I hope he did the right thing and I hope any young man or woman asking themselves the same question will put a lot of thinking and planning ahead of parenthood. LIttle miss strange: Cant Drink and do drugs if you have kids!!! Well... you shouldn't. So either DON'T have kids or be boring, the choice is yours.  katie_finn1992: i am 19 to and ive always wanted kids but 19 is too young to have kids wait till your a lil bit older and wiser that what i am doing with my fella, and im sure your parents will say the same thing you are too young to have kids Lederp: no, not at all. i'm 14 and i'm an expectant father, age is not a restraint, but maturity it. if you feel you're mature enough to raise a child.. go right ahead, if not.. wait until you feel you're ready  LIL Dove: One can you afford it two can you feed it three home it can you pay for health needs education sad but true children cost more than you could imagin.Then i f there are health issues .Wait till you have the security to back this all up/
 suchprettywordz101: you shouldnt have to resort to an online post to figure out whether your ready or not.. because honestly i dont see you being ready if your asking people you dont even know. if your not ready than simply tell your partner you arent!!  belairericky: thats my 2 boys in this pic wife said i am out leaving you after 10 yrs youngest is 4 oldest is 8 now i only get to see them 4 days a month live is hell but i love my kids no matter what shadow1314116: To be a father seems earlier as a man of the age of 19,in the old days in China,it is normal,but in 21 century it is too eraly.most of 19 boys are only after from high school or go to the university.in our eyes.the are inmuture.A good father should be have the ability to support their family and have the sence of responsibility.and most 19 bosys are not,isn't it?  betty dudla: Im almost 19 in few months ,and I have been dreaming of being a mother since i was a kid,and im still thinking about it .do wat u want when u feel like it ,and be responsible ,life is beautiful Impossiblebeliever3: I would have to say that you are too young. Just from a medical view our brains are not fully formed until about age twenty-five. You also have to think about the child, even if they are not born yet. I assume you want to be a parent to be a good father to a child. If you are too young to handle a child you will end up doing more harm then good and the child may grow to resent you. | Parenting Chat Room 46 People Chatting Similar Conversations |
