i want kids but im only 19. am i too young to be a father? (Page 4)
Lulz Sittle13ear: I have a friend, shes 13, she has a baby, her own, she isnt on welfare, i know that for sure, and she is raising the baby on her own, no parents help, only with diapers n preparing food when she is busy with the baby, you arnt that young, thats for sure, heck im young, i want children, age doesnt matter, all that matters is how mature you are, the job and income you have, the person your with, and how much you really want the child. oh, and if your willing to give up the party life, then go for it, so to everyone here, dont judge on age, because right now, reading "you are too young" makes the 13 year old look pretty mature, her kids now 2
Element118: did you see what you just wrote Onigiri....you said...........I have a friend, shes 13, she has a baby, her own, she isnt on welfare, i know that for sure, and she is raising the baby on her own, no parents help, only with diapers n preparing food when she is busy with the baby......hmm she indeed isnt doing ot on her own as you contridicted yourself in that statement besides she is way too young to even get a job or even cash a check not alone too young to drive so her being 13 makes it limited for her get get a grasp on responsibilities, yea she is getting all the help she can get in all departments and her family is her welfare cause she is justa baby herself
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Lulz Sittle13ear: if you actually understood what i said, im saying she raises it on her own, her parents dont help as in THEY DONT ACT LIKE THE PARENTS OF IT, all the do is help her when shes busy with the baby, like if shes changing the diaper and is having a hard time with that, do you think she wanted to me a mom right away? no, because she doesnt know who the dad is, she never had sex, but were raped, ok? shes like my sister, and she does have a job, sadly, you are wrong, she works in a daycare n she raises the money for the kid, so what if she cant drive? its called the BUS, like 20% of the students in my school who have babies n cant drive
Element118: WELL THAT JUST MEANS THEY ARENT READY>>>if you aren"t responsible before having a child< then you definitely have a big issue on your hand< which leads to as you see< someone else helping taking care of the female and the baby<also you havent mentioned a word about the father___if this person happens to be you which it seems as if____im not putting you down< everyone needs support baby< and i pray your friend get through everything ok
Lulz Sittle13ear: ok, one, this is NOT me, i am NOT 13, so that is a big put down in my mind, n you wanna know why i didnt mention the babys dad? because she was raped, do we know the father? no, we would rather never know because it hurts her enough to know that is wasnt planned, n shes doing well, her parents, they dont want anything to do with her, wanna know how i know? she lives with a friend of mine n her mom n dad come by to check up on her once a week, i have been raped before, i have been pregnant cuz of rape, but i never gave birth,
Element118: aaww soo very sorry to hear such_i pray that you are informing others of the awareness or pedafiles cause they are online as well on the streets< and these sick rapist start out young being perverts< i say when they are jailed for rape let them stay jailed< they dont need to get out and then surprisingly they would move right next to a school__geesh< i have much love for you"my heart goes out to you and your friend
silverjen: for god sake, do not have any kids in your age!!! If you are prepared for your kids about money, house and a job, then i think you could. but i' m sure you are not that much prepared. Damn it. you have to take care you children!!!! not just yourself !!! strongly object
psycho_wolf: Ohhhhhh, you could father a child, if you ain't careful. But are you ready to be a daddy to it, or pay for and support it, financially and emotionally, for at least 18 years, as well as putting up with the things the kid will do once it starts growing, walking, talking, rebelling. If you are, you are a helluva lot more mature than I or most anybody I knew was at 19.
Element118: bottom line....nomatter what decisions you make in life...you will have to face resposibilities rather you ready or not....so...to each his own...nobody can tell you what to do, but you can make whatever choice suits you my friend...responsibility usually comes with on hands training despite your living conditions anyway
usuallypositive: hving kids is a pleasure and it dont hv nothing to do with spoiling relationships...relationships just becuz of hving untrue love and it makes things worse as the events not giong the way the one wants....so cuz i am also of 18 i wont mind to hv a child bcuz it is the greatest and biggest gift of the great almighty God""""""""""
jolieluv: leave whoever wants to have a kid at 19 aloneeeeeeeeeeeee. can't u all see tat he/she hasn't uttered a word after so many pple given their opnions. where is ur good manner? say something!!! if not go have tat baby for all i care...
RomanticB: your not too young. the question isnt am i too young but are you stably ready to take care of child. its actual life in your hands.
spiritualmaster: All the people that said yes your to young
all that means is, you were to young at 19
.Does not mean everyone is to young at 19 .
NightXGoddess: Okay Man, heres the thing, if you think your ready, have kids, just make sure you can provide for them and that your girlfriend is COMPLETELY sure she wants kids RIGHT NOW. Kay?