i want kids but im only 19. am i too young to be a father? (Page 2)
Red_Clover: I think its important to at least go to college and prepare for your future.
When you have children it takes a lot of time and money to take care of them. And these can be huge stress factors on a couple....
Since you have a choice...you should really consider if you are ready? financially, mentally and emotionally to take on this responsibility.
And if you are prepared to offer them a good life...not a spoiled life...but one where you can provide the basic needs of a child and not struggle, otherwise you can place stress on your child in an unhappy atmosphere as well.
Many others had children young (unplanned) and did not have other choices at the time, so they did what they had to do for their children and of course don't regret having them.
countrycutie7385: well lets see do either of you have a good job can you afford a baby ??? do you have a nice place to live ?? your not even 21 so are you ready to stop going out and stay home with a kid?? how long have you two been together long enough to know that you want a baby with this person and be connected for life ???
cloud_9_cowgirl: if you are smart you will wait to have a child. I was 19 when i had my son and believe me,they are not cheap.If u feel that u are financially capable and emotionally capable of having a child,then go ahead. Best Luck to you.But i would wait until you have some college under your belt,and a good house to raise your baby in. I can guess that since your 19yrs old,you probley still live at home with your parents and thats not the right way to raise your baby.
Kuffufin: if you two really want kids together, wait 4 years first, get a college degree and start your career, then get to the kid making
bahcatha2: I became a father at 17 it was hard but it was probably harder for the mother, but together we managed and the experience made me grow up.
aMTLguy: Some people are ready before others to have kids. YOu just have to make sure you are bringing the kid into a world where it can be supported and loved. I'd say wait, enjoy being young, having a kid changes everything. You can't just pick up and go when you feel like it. The childs life becomes your life.
adragonheart: I am a single father of 4 ...
ask ur self this ... U got a jod
can u give up going out to the bar or club
can u deal with a babby crying n not noing what to do
can u count on ur famly for advice..
n most inportant do u want a kid b cause u just want one .
my adive is plan prepare n exspect the unexspeced . u r never to young or to old just b prepared it is a great responabilty to have a kid .
Its a life time camitment ...... n very expensive one at that.
LuvMyself: Think about it !...its called kids having kids !...wait for the right time to come in ur life ! ..
shhhhhhhhhh: I HAD MY 1ST KID AT 18 I AM KNOW 25 AND HAVE 5 KIDS 4 BOYS 1 GIRL THEY R WONDERFUL KIDS AND A BLAST
aliciakaya: I was 19 when I had my first kid. I was to young. I do not regret it, but if I could do it again I would wait. My husband and I did not have any time to ourselves. It is not easy being so young and a parent I think you already have doubts or you wouldn't have asked. If there is any doubt wait.
mauzie_: depends also on you as an individual - some 19 year olds are more mature than 30 year olds!
My boyfriend is 30 and his reaction to me being pregnant was more of a year old's never mind 19 year olds! Needless to say he's history and I've to raise my first child on my own.
It really depends on you, but i would wait until your sure - your obviously not if your even asking the question.
Brett666: Is that ur only goal in life? To add to the already over populated planet with a couple more mewling cabbages...
Everytime i read these forum topics left by mouth-breathing wireclub users, my opinion on humanity in general takes a steep nose-dive.
Land Of Confusion: Your just 19, you still need to let your emotions play out, still very impressionable. Get a steady job, someone you love, and when your ready, go for it
CrazyBina: if you have got enough money and you are sure that you have got the right wife...
you must feel whenits time...
if you exactly know that you are able to live with the..(most time beautiful) consequnzes...
but you will NEVER have time for yourself... rmeind of this
Canadian_Girl1: I would say wait a lot happens in your 20's enjoy those years - get your travel on and when that is over do what you want
Usefull_Idiot: 19, your a kid yourself. It be horrible inresponsible and you be an awfull father. wasting your and the kids life. You should be shot.
jus rico: haha yeah i'm 19 and i recently had that feeling of wanting a baby but i know if i do become a father i wouldn't be able to give my kid the life i want him to have... so yeah i would wait.
Kenny: well im 22 and some say the about the age to start but think about it's normal now these day's that young kids have a baby that age and 19 not young really the kids at 13 to 16 shit yere that stupid but if you want kids at 19 and ready for the life you have to give up and relly think about but if ppl want kids at 19 good on them all the best to them
Nonconformist: Way to young to have a child. While looking at other people with childen might make you envious and look like a glorious life you arent seeing what it actually takes to be a parent. Buying nappies, waking up at all hours of the night to the child, doctor/dentist/school bills.. Its even worse if you have a child with the wrong person to as they will be in your life forever. I doubt you and your girlfriend have been together long enough to be sure if your ready for a life long commitment.
Just wait atleast 5 more years. You have plenty of time to have children, you are still a baby yourself.