What is quality of good father? (Page 2)
Nat911: Just be yourself. It sounds like you are a great dad or will be, as you are asking this question. I can tell you what my husband is like with our kids but first of all everyone has their own personality and his is, cool, calm and collected unlike me. He plays with the kids, etc. he is the horse and the kids ride on his back, he gives them massages when they ask for one, he gives them medicine when they are sick, he cuddles them when they want a cuddle, he gives them time and they love it. But i believe your own children will love you no matter what (except if you abuse them of course) if you are there whenever you can....Great....if you can't be there, just let them know, make them feel safe, loved and let them know that they can come to you about anything. And I think, nobody is perfect, not me, not my husband, not my parents....NO one person. Kids only need to feel loved. Good luck, although it sounds like you won't need it.
Coastwind: A good father listens to his kids, interacting with their ideas and encouraging independent thinking. Hugs are always nice.
ShyOne_: To me a good father should care of his kids like he care himself. If he cant do it to himself how can he care for a family? family has needs. dont just have a kids because u love kids. its not the same as having and playing with them.
eg: love the basic of all. if he loves his kids he would try his best to understand and fulfill their needs (food, education, home etc) ,time together (even if u r busy or rarely home kids r not stupid, they can feel loved even when parents r far away, just spend 10 min of free time to communicate).
but just one, show them or let them know in anyway u love them. as simple as that.
Nicotina2: Let's hope MikeZ does not reproduce or adopt a child.
If you are attempting to be funny Mike... FAIL!
Deepesh_Nambiar: Being a good dad needs nothing as there is no such thing as good dad and bad dad...its for the kids to decide when they grow up if their dad was a superman or a doberman...
Deepesh_Nambiar: of course it does... take an example of urself... u might say ur dad is a good dad or bad dad based on ur individual experience. . if u walk across any family every siblings have their own views abt their dad... maybe their father would have not done any harm to them but not capable enough to take care of every needs of the child... does that mean he is a bad dad? its life circumstances "
Nicotina2: DN, the thread is about what qualities a good father posses.
Of course each person will have a different view given their experiences.
I think the ability to have unconditional love for your child is a quality that a good father has.
BenevolentPeckerwood: Only one thing separates a good parent from a bad parent: a good parent WANTS to be a good parent. A bad parent does not care.
Angel Eyes: A good father should know when 2 b there for their children.....Help teach them right from wrong. To watch them grow up day by day, play with them, read them stories and so on. Kids look up to their parents and when a father is doin his job as daddy the child will never forget that that is their daddy n not a stranger.
spankdmonkey: A good father will always be there for his children,, and that is if he has custody or not .A father provides for his family ,loves nurtures respects and guides them .And the way to do that is to set a examples and instill qualities like respect everyone ,respect your enviroment ,.
.the best thing to give a child is your time ,Listen to them protect them, ..No parent is perfect .My first wife had 3 kids to me and we split up .....Was talking to our kids one day and they are in there late 20s and early 30s and they go dad one thing we always knew and that was that you loved us, and was always there for us ,you never forgot our birthdays ,or christmas, and when you could be with us you was ..
What that tells me that they loved me because I was there when they needed me and when they didnt .Even if someone does not have their children the best thing you can do is put yourself in your childrens life .Do not skip your responsabillity as a father
Now 30 years later i have another daughter that i have brought up on my own she is 13 and a half ,It is not easy like some say it is, because it has its moments, especialy in their teens ,I love being a dad and the more i put into it the more i get out of it .i take her to school pick her up take her to sport encourage her provide for her, love her and nurture her i know im a better dad now then i was 30 years ago because ive mellowed out and learnt a lot since then
.I also have a 4 year old to another woman but i dont have custody ,That is the one in the photo im on a access visit which i never miss ,you only have to look at the photo and see how happy she is and me to
, And that is the greatest feeling you can give to a child ,tell them you love them, but show them is even better , actions speak louder then words but the ..rewards you get back are all worth it .
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Wildfirex: i agree with spankdmonkey my father is always there for me. he isnt my biological dad but i have never felt any different from his other kids. he is always there and giving advice even when i dont want it. I even feel like he is over protective but i guess thats a good quality because i cant complain that ive ever been in harms way.