Teenagers wanting to have children (Page 2)
AlexTzekos: I'm 17 and I love kids! I visit my little cousin as often as possible. As for having my own, I'd like to secure a career in which I could support a family with before that happens.
spankdmonkey: had my first child at 16 second one at 19 3rd one at 22 4th one at 24 and a few more .had my last one at 49 .All i can say i love every bit of it would not change my kids for the world they are my life .There is plenty of good teenage mums and dads out there ,that make great parents ..I believe that it is the greatest feeling in the world the gift of life is absolutely beautifull and rewarding .
All you have to do is look after them protect them love and nurture them... and you get more back then you can ever imagine .One smile of a little baby is worth a million dollars .Love them and they will love you .Its not for everyone to have them early but that is life sometimes just go with it and lap it up as its all good .You get to see yourself in them .if you have them young yes you miss out on some things make saccrifices but when they are teens you get to do things with them and play in team sports with them and all sorts of stuff .I loved running out onto a football field with my sons and playing rygby league with them and indoor cricket ,It has its advantages and disadvantages .Take the good with the bad in this world and live your life happy and be happy that you have a child
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babygal: i was 15 yrs old when had first kid in 2004 she 7 this november ,and then i had one in march 2011 hes 6 months, then i caught a month after him for 2 twin gals due this febuary 2012 and ill be 23 yrs november 30th 2011
BassLinesFroMmaRS: LOL....Weird question. Why do you wanna know which teens are lookin' to get "knocked up"?????
Gracimo: ok guys, I've got no problems with having sex in your teen years, in fact, on average an aussie looses their virginity when they're 16, but there IS a thing called birth control, or condoms, or evn the morning after pill. I think it's great if you WANT to, and planned to have kids, but it's not fair to put so much strain on the family, and often the guy who got her knocked up abandons her, and then it's not fair that she can't finish her education or anything.
BassLinesFroMmaRS: Indeed....this is what is called "empowering women". Often, young girls are pressured into having sex by there boyfriends, who often also don't want to wear the condom, and these young men often do "flee the scene" shortly after they see the consequence of their actions nine months later. Further education is needed to teach those of both genders, that if you are going to have sex, then do so responsibly.
Jetters: Have kids when you are emotionally mature enough to raise them. And you have a job. Im not paying for your kid.
Lucid: I agree with Jetters....there are too many teens getting preggers then relying on gov handouts to support these babies.
Kaywee: I'm only sixteen years old, and I have triplets.
I was raped when I was 13, and had them at fourteen.
One of my sons died when they were only a little over a year old, so now I only have two babies.
I don't look back on it as a negative thing, though. I love my children more than anything, and would do anything for them, but I don't recommend becoming a parent at a young age unless you're emotionally and financially ready for the burden supporting and caring for children puts on a teenage mother, especially if she's doing it alone.
FluffBunnyOfDarkness: Wouldnt a teenager be considered under 20? Like say 19. I had my daughter at 20 and wouldn't change it for the world.
ExcellentOwl: I think whether or not you have the financial ability and maturity level to support a child matters more than age. Some 18 year olds are more mature than some 25 year olds. For the most part, though, I think teenagers aren't ready for children. I'm 20, and I know I couldn't deal with having a child now. Too many people have children just because they want them - yeah, babies are cute but just because you want one doesn't always mean you should have one. I think before you even consider having kids you should at least have your own home, a steady job, and some money saved up. People don't always consider what's best for the baby.
oceanroze: If your a good mum at 17 18 is a better age as it is more legal but in saying that 16 is to for alot of things,anyway it depends heaps on maturaty my daughter was 18 when she had her first ,and over 19 when she just had her second he is now 9 months of age ,.and she is the bomb mumma to her to boys,as long as the bubbys have a dry roof over thier head,clothes on thier back ,blankets to keep warm,food in thier belly and most important of all is the love from their mum and or dad,.My mum and dad was 16 years of age when they had me and went on to have 4 under 19 years of age and 1 more after that,and until 6 years ago were still together until dad died at 59 years young ,having 19 grandchilren,and now mum at 64 has 15 great great grandchildren,Anyway i allways thought it was cool having young parents could do more together not old and slow lol !!
Jetters: I guess the point is these kids are missing out on their young years. Im not saying its a waste to have kids at 19, but I mean come on. There is a whole wide world out there. So many people I know havent left their town, let alone their country because they banged out kids at 19. Have a young life, explore, get educated, travel the world. Do something with your own life before bringing more lives into a world you have not looked at beyond your doorstep.
and "your" is noone in particular, just general comment.
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BuzZyBabii: im a mum of 3 & im 25....i had my eldest @18 and my youngest @ 23 !! i wouldnt change a thing about my life with my kids so far and i look forward to every waking moment with them...i hate these people who judge motherhood on age...a 17yo can do just as good a job at raring a child as a 35yo so why shouldnt she be happy...planned or not age is onlya number and when i was put in the scene of having to change my whole lifestyle to bring my children into this world...i did it with a instint not a chore...dont be to quick to judges every mother deserves to be happy no matter the age....!!
Miss_Chrys: Really good topic.. I come from a really low socio economic region in Australia where in high school you either had a baby, completed your studies and got the hell out of that region to go on and do things or stayed and took over your families business. There were never alot of options and I'm glad to say I went and did something. It's quite sad though that alot of youth though see it as no other options or think that by having a child of their own they'll have something to do/ play with. Not a reason for having a child. There is so much to see and do in the world and these youngsters arent privvy to that now because they are looking after kids, when they are in fact still kids.
The biggest thing that has annoyed me here in Australia is that the government a few years back were giving all women (age was not a contributing factor) a baby bonus to help stimulate the population by birthing. I remember on a visit back home I saw an abundance of teenage low class teens pregnant and some when asked why they were pregant answered for the baby bonus. They could use the money for a new car, a tv, etc hello.. A child isnt a way for you to buy a tv and they are going to cost you money and sacrifice for life..
Life learners permitts teens should be put on contraception until they are actually able, financially stable and mentally responsible to take care of a child!!
Jetters: Very true Miss Chrys....I come from and still live in a low SES area of Sydney. I never got pregnant, I have always had a job, have 2 degrees, travelled the world. I equate this to one thing. Decent parents. The area you live in doesnt mean a damn thing. If your parents are losers, guess what.
Miss_Chrys: we sound separated at birth lol. yeah true that about the parents but not always entirely true. the worst ones ive seen are kids that have no dad/ mum and get pregnant because they have this dis eluded idea they are going to have their own child, start a family and make it a better life for their kids.. fail...
Serabi: In a recent study in KwaZulu Natal in South Africa, three rural schools were studied. It was found that 82% of the girls have had a baby or is pregnant. The youngest with a baby was 13 years old.
Paid to breed? The ANC government pays R100 per month per child in South Africa. (But only to black mothers/children.)
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