to spank or not to spank? (Page 3)
Snuggywuggums: I don’t think a little paddle on the butt ever hurt anyone. I was paddled a few times and I paddle. You don’t have to hurt a child for them to get the message. I think parents that leave marks on their children even a red spot are spanking to hard. It is the action that gets the childs attention not the force it was done with.
entranced: I've swatted my children maybe 3 times. Of course it didn't even hurt them but yes it's them knowing you are willing to do it that straightens them up the next time.
The most important thing in any kind of discipline is the follow through and standing your ground. If I grounded or have taken things away from the kids I don't under any circumstances change the grounding etc until the term is up, so to speak. My kids now know to not even ask for a change of sentence. My kids are very respectful and have been honor students since grade 1.
On the flip side I know an entire family (couple different sets of kids) that think the kids won't love them anymore if they dish out some discipline. When they do the kids put up such fights that they keep changing the sentences until all of a sudden the kid got what they want. These children now do whatever they want, are the most disrespectful little #$%$# that i have ever known. Stick to the discipline you handed out no matter how terrible the kids get. Eventually they realize that you are the parent and screaming, yelling, begging, telling you how much they hate you, etc will go away and they start behaving at least after the second warning. lol
Snuggywuggums: I agree it is about the follow through for sure. We have friends that scream and yell and threaten but never do what they say they are going to do. Kids are not stupid, they know that all their parents are going to do is scream and yell and not follow through so they do what they please. I even have friends that will not take their children out with us when we go out to eat because they are so ill mannered. I take the kids everywhere how else are they going to learn how to behave unless they are taught what is acceptable behavior in public? Avoiding it because they are not behaving surely will not teach them a thing.
bahcatha2: It also depends on the parents, far too many modern parents are too busy partying and making more kids for the welfare check while ignoring the ones they already have.
1lastchance72: I grew up in the days when you could spank your kids, I got spanked, swatted, with whatever my mother could grab at that given moment, wether a shoe, fly swatter, leather belt. I remember the day the leather belt showed up it was a gift from my grandmother it hung on the wall and had numbers on it and they called it a calender lol. But in all honestly the spanking never hurt our ass it hurt our feelings, it show us that you had to have respect for everyone or else.
1lastchance72: no didn't carry a gun LOL. we went across the street from school park to watch the fights after school
sugarshorts: advise from a an abused child and the proud parent of 3 boys. Boys will be boys think back whene you were a little boy. Striking a child is wrong there is nothing that can justify hitting a child............just my opinion. I would rather have been neglected than hit
Yahweh: blister that A$$ until it is cherry red and they can't sit down ,no ,that's not the way ,it solves nothing and causes hate and discontent ,especially from the bi-polar kiddies ,saw one take dads belt away from him and stared beating dad with it
sugarshorts: there is no reason to strike a child it does more damage than good. A good parent will find other means of dicipline my boys are teenagers now and I have never spanked or hit my kids. 2 out of 3 are honor roll students and the other is working on it his choice.
OptiMusPrime: Here is an old saying i once heard ...Never Ever Be The Cow !? That Sucks The Calf ...Always Let The Calf ... Suck The Cow ....Your The Cow! ,Too many Parents play the Calf today,Isnt it the Other way round?,Kindness is very very important , But Sometimes not all the time!, that you have to be unkind to be kind...Welcome!!! ...To tough ...Love......parents!?...Dont be Harsh on/with your children when you do discipline them.Or You Will discourage them ,Discipline them , give them an understanding of your discipline ...But Make sure you Always reaffirm your love ....Young People only feed on for what they see And are only Influenced in what they Hear ..... And it all begins at Home ....Kiwibro1....
bahcatha2: parents these days are just stupid they are not parents and the amount of little hoodlums walking the streets is living proof of that. These kids always talk about respect, but it is you are supposed to respect them not they are supposed to respect you they have it backwards because they are not held accountable until their sorry ass winds up in jail.
bahcatha2: there is nothing wrong with discipline they have to have it sooner or later one way or another.
sugarshorts: your wrong they dont have to have it if your a loving ,patient, and understanding. The problem with kids today are the parents, there to busy putting there careers first or spending to much time golfing, shopping or hanging out at the spa. you parent a kid right and be there for them you don't need to dicipline. and violence never solves anything spanking is a violent act.
bahcatha2: still makes me have to ask why is the undisciplined generation more violent than the disciplined generation. Many years of testing the theory have proven your hypothesis wrong discipline does not breed violence the lack of discipline and accountability does.
Yahweh: I have to agree with you there ,many are that way and walk all over the parents ,they totally dis them every chance they get
sugarshorts: because in time things change they have more tech stuff than we had tv shows are more violent problems are brought more into the open for awarness purposes and if the parent isn't there to explane things some kids take it the wrong way. parents need to be there for more for there kids. I had a hard and abusive life but I think life is alot harder now than whene I was growing up. I wouldn't want to be a kid in this geration
bahcatha2: me neither too many little cowards hiding behind gangs and guns in a desperate attempt to be tough
sugarshorts: It's more like looking for somewhere to fit in and if the parents would be parents they wouldn't need to feel that way.