Community.

MichaeI: I'm in a writing mood so I thought I'd share some thoughts. I've been around these parts going on 4 years and have seen all the cycles that Wire goes through. What I mostly take note of is the drama and/or fighting. These thoughts aren't from a moderator's perspective but more as a member of the community. I'm realistic enough to know that with a place with nearly 4 million people, there's just no way for each and every one of us to get along. However, it is my hope that we as a community can come together and at least be civil to one another.

The fact is, each and every one of us come to Wire either as a form of escapism, to have fun, socialize with friends and meet new people. For most of us, Wire is a place to come and express ourselves. When you have this kind of a large group of people gathering in one place, there's no doubt we're gonna get different personalities, different view points and things of the like. No matter what our general make-up, we are all equal and we want our voices to be heard.

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MichaeI: It is my vision that we at Wire have a sense of community. Accepting that people are gonna differ on things and not see eye to eye. I like to think of Wire as a city, with all the different rooms we can go to. Different people like to congregate with like-minded people so in a sense, each room is it's own little town or city. I hope that we can get to the place where we respect each other enough to at least have some co-existence.

For whatever reason you may come onto Wire is most likely the same reason other people come as well. When you spend a lot of time in one place with a large amount of people, it's inevitable that people are going to experience different moods. It would be ideal if everyone was in a good mood when they came here but that's just not reality. I think we need to realize that a little lateral room needs to be given to people. You may not like their personality but if you were living in a neighborhood with them, would you want to make them feel un-welcome?

MichaeI: I'd like to think the answer to that is no. So when mingling with other people, try to keep in mind that the other person may not be having a good day. You may need that same lateral room yourself one day. Let's try to think of Wire as a second home and strive to co-exist. Keep in mind that words to matter to people. Before saying something that you know may inflict harm on them, take a step back. We certainly don't want people leaving the community because they don't feel a part of it. It saddens me when I see people leave the community over some drama or feelings being hurt. Everybody wants to feel a part of something. Wire offers that. Let's try to be kind to each other. We all matter.

o0oEviano0o: It will never happen, as long as there are judgmental people and differing opinions. Morals and self restraint come into play as well.. Sometimes its hard to sit there and watch some chick complain that she may be pregnant but is still going out and drinking or watchthem bragging about how she slept with a married man and not say something, especially when you feel so strongly about it.... or some 18 year old chick posting pics of her vagina in the dating room......... trolling for trolling sake is stupid.... but voicing your opinion can often turn into a heated argument and attacks on an individual especially when other people share the same views... Wire will always be the same, the larger the numbers get the wider the spectrum of people and personalities = clashes

MichaeI: A person can dream.

o0oEviano0o: Michael Luther King

MichaeI: I know it's a lot to ask.

o0oEviano0o: I have a dream... a dream deeply rooted in the wire club dream that one day chatters from all over the world will be able to stand up and say " I chatted and it was ok" ... Amen

Caylyn: lets face reality here.. in most ciricles you dont get along with everyone..but you learn to tolerate or avoid.. its the same here in wire... IF YOU CANT TOLERATE A PERSON USE THE BLOCK BUTTON dont wine!!! ..
however sadly theres always more right?
take the lovely sweet adorable ones that harrass you .. or get others to harrasss you when you have THEM ON BLOCK! how do you deal with them? how do you say stop telling lies that arent true? you just learn to move on and to talk to those you trust instread of the same peeps that come back in with multiple fake accounts to befreind you and troll you ... note i have a small freinds list for a reason

Nymphetamine Ene: ha.... i m gona say some things here you might not like. i m using wire now over year, and had all kinds of shits and good stuffs here. and i must say i mostly figured ppl here out... so i can even do classifications. like i know few ppl like you mich, firm, tuff with acctually warm heart and not being really themselfs here in chatrooms, coz of some reasons, iwont say them..then there are ppl here named trolls and bullys which are all more or less bullys and come here coz they can t face real life so it is easer use someone on net as punching bag, then you have gruop of ppl who lives in countries or societies where sexualiy is repressed so they tryin do that here, and we call them creeps and pervs, and they really can be nasty, then there are perpy chatters which come here just for lols and have fun nd on the end we have huge attention seekrs, not like me, even worse... i would never post my vagina point is no matter from where we all come and what we looking for on here fact is we all, every single meber of this chat site has pretty amount of personal problems, and this is relaxing, killing time gives you some other world where ou don t have to face things... when i first join that was reason, and i m thankfull to some ppl here which really helped me, and i m more or less pretty damn cool now.
anyway since this is community how you say, this is what happens some ppl are populare here i would dare say i m one of them in some rooms... and then when persone like that picks on someone, lil gangs of wanna be do the same thing and make that persone leavs community... it is like in high school bully someone, everyone start and persone cracks under preasure. i was really mean to some ppl here, amazingly mean and that was wrong and i changed that... what i still do is being honest mostly with ppl and saying them what i think about them.. so when i say to someone you look trashy i mean it honestly and do same things irl too... when i think someone is stupid i say it, coz i do that irl too... and many comments i do which maybe sounds like hae speach or insulting ppl are my opinoins, no one has to tolerate me, always can say back with arguments and i wont get nasty. i roll same in real community and here... so if i try to be nice and sweet and adorable it wont be me, it will be some fiction which i don t wanna... i came to this comminity as me, and wanna stay as me.. irl ppl which dislike don t hang out with me, ignores me,i ignore them and all good, ppl can do same things here, ignore eachotherand no problems... but some of them are really pushing it hard, and keepo going... so we all do snap sometimes... so, i hope you get why i simply can t be kind to everyone.

MichaeI: Ene, that's part of what I mean by accepting of people's personalities. That's who you are.

Nymphetamine Ene: YouTube

thats how i see it

Melliflurvescent: Don't stop. Believing. Hold on to the feeling.

harlett: WOW....a coherent conversation,on a very controversial Wire subject...

i can't imagine what it is like to be e-dating,and enjoying the wide variety of people available for...and have someone who then starts to slam your every move every which way imaginable trailer trash talking behind you,besides you and in front you.....relentlessly raising hands and fists at you..

all of which just causes folks to defend them self and is done to steal the wonderful welcome most of us are experiencing here ...Jealousy is serious social disease...

personally.... i think Wire ought to stand behind it's lack of tolerance for such brutish behavior towards any of their cherished residents...by actually for life banning the names behind those antic's so that those names can never rise again to assault who they are not....and that strong disciplinary measures should devised too keep the grossly immature and aggressive out of adult rooms... or kept from printing the first word out in forums...

who knows.. perhaps there is way to i.d.individual computers so that multiple hand raising fist throwing accounts can no longer be made and used to bruise...

we all know the difference between differing personalities clashing.. and the fist throwing e slapping words being used to bruise......

Nymphetamine Ene: ^true....
only sad thing is we all know all about net thingies, and still doing it ... still being cunts in some points, hurt ppl on purpoese.. we all now someone gona do same to us, and we still come here... it is like magic online circle..i can stand a lot i just hate wankers and whiners... like go cry to your mommmy, or get an effin spine... -.-

♫Jodbug♫: I don't know if it's just me...But I find the drama on here has progressively become less and less since the new WireClub emerged. I think a lot of it has to do with the large groups of people kind of breaking up and going their own ways, which makes me sad but I suppose it was always inevitable. The drama nowadays seems to primarily revolve around fakes and trolls, and I'm sorry, I have no interest in accepting those kinds of folks. I don't go out of my way to cause trouble or stir the pot (anymore), but if I see some idiot attacking one of my friends just because he/she has nothing better to do with their crappy life, I'm going to say something. Regardless of what everyone says about this being the internet and blah blah blah, there are real people attached to these screen names and when negative connotations are made, be it regarding their personality or their appearance, feelings do get hurt. Wire is an escape for all of us, and I don't feel as though any of my long-time user friends deserve to be treated so poorly by these individuals who are here one day, and gone the next. Having said all that, it does become very easy to get dragged down into the Darkside of Wire with some of the shady gossip that undoubtedly goes along with these kinds of places. I just don't notice it so much anymore. And speaking from someone who's been on the Darkside and done things she isn't proud of, Michael's words ring very true. Just mind yo' business and try to have fun. If I get pissed off with someone, I just take my leave and come back later. And if I unknowingly hurt someone with my stupid comments, I'll PM them and apologize. It's pretty easy.

'Tis my piece.

Nymphetamine Ene: joddy i don t knw ou well but i freaed out when ppl were bashing you in dating... like i myself been mean sometimes and stir shits, but there is a line between good lols and things which acctually hurt ppl.. e live in world where no one acctually cares about anything anymore why should ppl on net? we can t expect it... some individuals do and those are ppl on my friend list others can suck on my balls on daily base..



here just like irl,you never know hat to expect from certain ppl.. someone can be your friend and other day spread things about you... it is how world rolls i saw that here and irl so many times...

♫Jodbug♫: Ene, you're a doll and you're just like I am. It's easy to tell when folks are on here for good reasons and are looking to make friends and lasting relationships, and it isn't fair when they're attacked just for what they look like or a silly comment they made. When it comes to the real folks, I just try to treat people the way I want to be treated. I've learned my lessons.

harlett: being a loud mouth bore because some one isn't being given the time of day from who they want it from..is a clash of differing personalities...when that noise is not nipped in the bud the new york second it starts is when fist throwing and bruising begins.. which should be un-tolerated..

Wire has written a code of conduct,those of us who have broken that code and have been disciplined know the cost....

♫Jodbug♫: P.S. Mad good song choice, woman

Nymphetamine Ene: yup i learned my wire lesson with losing my acc and ip banning... and get second chance.
and thx jody

♫Jodbug♫: Harlett, I think we're all here for some kind of attention. I don't mind that so much, although there is definitely a line. I try to stick to user rooms primarily where I know my friends are. I'm one of those loud mouths lol.

harlett: your blurring a line.....yes....... were all here making friends,and some have known lovers they other wise had never met....what a wonderful living village WIRE IS....

i for one are neither harem building or stud mongering....
so much of what goes on i am personally far removed from...

and i hang out in forums when not in either of the game rooms,home page..
forums can be bruising as bruising gets...there are those who slam us for just posting..and those slams are said in tones and textures meant to e slap and leave hand prints...they are always said in words to personally assault...it's horrible....

those words spoken by a very very few,are said in a spite at who that person is addressing and rarely if ever has anything what so ever to do with what everyone else was exchanging opinions on....also has the nasty habit of going on and on at us.... following us from thread to thread.. from posting to posting.. always spue-ing forth the exact same none sense.......word for dang word...

can't imagine trying to understand those actions for anything other than what they are.. the actions and words of very a spiteful person.. who longs to bruise upon bruise others..

Riff raf: it's wireclub, not wire community.
wire is not a democracy, tis a club.
no offense intended to any individuals, but that's the reality of it.

♫Jodbug♫: I'm not really big into the forums, but I do know that there have been some nasty goings-on in there Harlett. There are definitely some people who come on here just to be spiteful and hurt people. But there are also others who just get caught up in the moment and say things they later regret. I'm not the type to intentionally go out of my way to hurt someone. I like to joke around. I have done really crappy things in the past, but I think I've moved away from that. I just try to take things at face value on here now. I don't trust too many folks, just a select few who have been with me since the beginning. I think that's all you can really do.

Nymphetamine Ene: i don t wanna hurt ppl ever, i just can t be quiet.... and when someone pushes me i become really spitefull.... so i try to now avoid ppl which ussually push me.. better for community.. lol