Teen Wireclub idea (Page 4)

ApodacaNurse: that is when the rules of what is appropriate or not with rooms should be really pushed. like when a person makes a room, the rules are put on the screen, and then they have to agree to the terms before the room is made.

Futterwacken: Trauma, I suppose it has been 2 years or better. I've been here 6. Minors were still getting in back then (lying about their age) ADMIN just "hoped" by making it 13 plus that the teens would be "honest" about their age.

ApodacaNurse: teens? Being honest? Yeah right!! I was a teen once. I was a hell child My kids are preteens, and they are already a handful!

Futterwacken: Well to be fair, Admin doesn't have any teens yet! He'll learn

ApodacaNurse: oh he will have a BLAST once he deals with teens! He will end up bald before to long

Aura:

I see the "we must protect the kids" school of thought is strong here. Great if this works for you, really.
Speaking personally, I am of the "we must guide the kids to navigate a corrupt world" school of thought. Step one, know where your teen is at with the hormones and sexual awareness. Step two, raise this awareness in terms of what the rights are of every person when it comes to sex.
I try very hard to remove shame from sex. (also known as 'sex-positive' ) And as a result, I really doubt my teen would be pressured into doing anything she doesn't want to. By peers or by older people. No "If you love me you would...." crap. And they do still try that shit.

So far, it seems to be working out better than the 'abstinence only' education I got.

And I was 14 in the days of mIRC which was basically the lawless wild west of the internet social community.

edit: got a winky emote from putting the ' next to a ) which gave a bit of a wrong impression.

Zonkers_: Also Wiremods do not moderate what is said in user rooms unless a report is made in that room that warrants an investigation. So yes room owners can do what they want in their rooms, as long as they follow the guidelines and the room does not contain "sex" in the name or is not a flirt room that is rated G or a PG/R rated room that does NOT have teens posing as adults. I speak on behalf of all room owners and wiremods. It is stressed a lot and enough. All we can do is abide by it and exercise good judgment in who we promote as room hosts and who we want in that room. The reason rooms like those get out of control, is the owner and the hosts allow it to. That's when I feel the wireclub mods should step in. Believe me, i have had a lot of issues dealing with people in my room but i am not in there 24/7. Thats why people do NOT come in my rooms anymore because i enforce rules. I do not tolerate BS and drama in my rooms and if you dont like the rooms that people make, then do not go in them. instead make your own. Also try not to make similar room names that others have because that raises hostility and causes major problems. i deal with that myself when others rip off my room ideas. Come up with something ORIGINAL, not copied. If you cant do that, dont make a room. 'nuff said

Zonkers_: Also the biggest issue with minors on chatsites is "Cyber-bullying". That continues to be a major issue on social networking. Adults do it as well. It's sad when a young teen takes their life because of the horsepoop that is spread about them. It's Dog-eat-dog out there, but a line should be drawn

Futterwacken: Aura, so is it sex positive to have your teen see what you and Geoff post on each others walls? As a parent I find it to be pretty gross behavior. I don't even want to read what he is going to do to you in a hot tub...do you really think she wants to see it?

Aura: I think it's sad you find sex gross.
But as for that comment, it's not even descriptive.
I would not mind if she read 50 shades of grey, so why would I mind her reading something rather tame?
Oh, can I point out she's at the age of consent in a large part of the US? So, people do accept on some level that kids are doing what you think is gross...Only they should have no idea of what they are doing, is that it?

Zonkers_: i dont think Futter is grasping the full idea here.

Aura: Why does it matter how we met? Certainly this day when about a fifth of relationships start online.

But she does know that *gasp* old people have sex too!
you see that as gross, fine, do not let your kids know you're sexually active.
I see that as a very good reason not to rush in to things. Because, no matter what Hollywood is trying to tell you, people do not only have sex in their teens and twenties.

I don't think you understand that we talk about this, and much more, face to face. What she sees here hardly comes as a surprise.

Zonkers_: and that comment by explicit is removed for being rude

ApodacaNurse: I missed what the comment even was

Zonkers_: explicit i said do not comment plz. This is not a forum for you to criticize

AliveSomewhereElse: I don't believe it is healthy to hide everything from children. They are going to see and hear things that they need to be able to handle on their own and talking with them about sensitive subjects is what they need. I was making a point here when the subject came up and I think it can educate some people. I've done nothing wrong and I am not trolling.

♫►Åßì: It is more dangerous to hide things. Kids/teens should feel comfortable to ask parents about such topics. If it's openly discussed maybe it would help to prevent std's and teen pregnancy. They wouldn't feel ashamed to ask about birth control methods. It's gonna happen, so best to be prepared.

ApodacaNurse: hiding is not a good thing. As a nurse, I have taught kids about the dangers of drugs, and unprotected sex. As a mother, I wouldn't want to hide it either. But I think protecting them from something that could cause them harm is something as adults we need to do. Even though sometimes kids can be rebellious and try to do what they want anyways.

R E B E C C A: I wouldn't have my kids on here because i find some of the behavior on here is pretty gross. If you go into the chat rooms its likely you will be messaged by some weirdo, and ive had all kinds of disgusting things said to me in the chat rooms that ive never heard in rl....most of which arent appropriate at any age, but as an adult u know how to deal with it. Most of the guys here claim to have at least a 9" penis....i dont want my daughters thinking that is a normal way to start a conversation or introducing them any of the warped ideas u come across here.

Aura: Yeah, I understand what you mean about gross behavior.
The sad truth is though, that's not 'wire'. That's just because most humans have a tendency to be gross. You get the same thing on every social site. And I've looked.
Wire is pretty good, actually. An adult can't IM a under 18 on here and you can opt to set the messages to friends only.

The 'warped ideas' are out there and I am going on the assumption she will be introduced to them no matter what. At least in these somewhat controllable circumstance I can point out the ideas are in fact warped and that boys just can not measure if their lives depended on it

WonderWoman1: Well I find some adults gross too in here..Posting peoples name, telling lies about them, insulting women even men..I find some men in here wearing big momma panties, they have more drama than you could count your fingers and feet...about witch hunt..Im a huntress..I dont fear nobody..If I see someone doing it..I flag them ..Its time to discipline this adults acting like kids...Wrong is wrong....maybe doing this they can learn to respect Wire families..I removed people , people remove me but I dont cry foul...I celebrate