Age difference in relationships.

GeraldTheGnome: YouTube Sorry about that, the first attempt to get this on failed. This time I remember to put a capital Y into the link so I hope this edited version works.

R E B E C C A: hmmmm well if you like someone you like them age doesnt matter tho it could put you off liking someone if you see what i mean

GeraldTheGnome: No, if you are interested then age is not a factor, it shouldn't be the decider/factor even before first contact and sight. People like that are far more judgemental than others and are hypocrites if they claim that you are when you are more open minded about things.

R E B E C C A: yeah thats wot i said but at the same time you have to fancy them like i wouldnt fancy a 50/60yo....i cant help that??

GeraldTheGnome: This is about a 13 year age gap, but age doesn't matter because if someone has all that you want but that person is older or younger than factor out the age barrier rather than put one up before meeting anyone.

GeraldTheGnome: That last bit wasn't a go at you of course.

Aura: Okay, just to be clear on this Rebecca, you would kick George Clooney out of your bed? (he's 51)

GeraldTheGnome: At the same time though Coffee has a point. Can any of us really make any clear cut age cut offs ? Sure there are a number of us that aren't into someone of such and such an age and/or have a preference for people of a certain age. Can we however make it exclusive to only those of a certain age though and still be fair ? There's always an exception to the rule. Personally to anyone with an age grudge/stigma where the age gap is 13 years or so then I don't see for example 13 years the difference being too much of a stretch to be an exception to the rule. I deserve to be and I want to be an exception to the rule, anything else is being totally unfair to me or to anyone else in the same or similar position to me.

Aura: Sorry I really don't care about you personally one way or an other Rebecca. I would have asked anyone who claimed 50 yo can't be hot the same question. And you could consider gray a turn off, that's okay. I consider flat noses a turn off. I'm not dissing preferences. However, I did name Clooney because it's not as outrageous as for instance Richard Geer. Clooney seems to go for good looking women with no regards to status. His last girlfriend was a waitress. And while I do think you're a good looking woman, a supermodel (Cindy Crawford) you probably are not.
Besides, Gerald already knows, via his wall, that I think that a woman who claims to be open minded and then turns around and uses age as an excuse, is doing just that, using an excuse. One that's a little more easy on the ego than saying that she got a creepy vibe. Maybe she listened to rumors more than she should have I don't know.
But if it's all just as he put forward the girl is shallow and doesn't even know it and she's not even a loss.

GeraldTheGnome: Vanity is what rules her, that is the problem and oh it would be so, so embarrassing to go out with someone 13 years older. Oh the humanity ! If I ever get to a point where my weight and what I look like as well as other superficial things comes before people, then Coffee or anyone else is free to shoot me. It would be a mercy killing. I'd rather that than go on being shallow.

мιѕѕ_яєвєℓ: In my personal opinion.... age is nothing but a number. It all depends on the mentality, mind set, and experience of the individual. I typically don't like to date younger or too close to my age but I have. I keep an open mind when it comes to ages and dating. The last serious relationship I had was with someone who was 20 years older than me. He was the oldest I have ever dated. Yet I fell head over heels in love with him. Obviously we are not together now for certain reasons but every relationships have their ups and downs. He looked like he was in his late 30s anyways. Not only does mentality come into play but it depends on if you are physically attracted to them and sexually as well. If you can't physically or sexually do it then there is no relationship there. You have to have different levels of attraction in order to have a successful relationship. Would I date someone in their 60s who was all old wrinkly and gray? Chances are... probably not because I would have to be physically attracted to them. Would I date someone who was 60? If they looked good for their age and took care of themselves, I would consider it. So having a certain age cut off isn't exactly shallow... it is whether or not a person is attracted to them or not. When I dated my ex he never thought or expected to date me. I was the youngest woman he ever dated and he was sometimes uncomfortable about it but the relationship progressed as it did and we were together a year. It can happen Depends on mentality and attraction.

dave3974: i do not see a problem , but if there is a big gap you may not have much in common. in some cultures women are attracted to older men as they see finance & support more in an older man.
to the older man a young wife is a status symbol

GeraldTheGnome: You mean status ?

Tanviii: Ew no, I would never date a man who's more than 5 years older than me. I mean I dont want to be 40 and have a bf/ husband who is 60. That's just stupidity

GeraldTheGnome: Never, there is the problem. You can't even go 6 years out, that is just sheer stupidity not the other way around. Maybe you wouldn't go for 20 years out but to not go for someone that's even six years out is just totally ridiculous and inexcusable. There's no 'Ew' in it, obviously you are another one that is obsessed too much with vanity and stigma. Scratch that, you are another example of someone that is too obsessed with vanity and stigma. Preferences is okay, but your exclusions and that of others along that path is just a very unrealistic and very unfair way of thinking.

Tanviii: Well, I dont want my man to die 10 years before I do. It's okay as long as there's a 10 year old age gap but more than that brings problems. You know, like the younger one being attracted to someone his/her age and stuff.

GeraldTheGnome: You and I both don't know who is going to kark it first. Problems ? Yes, give me a list of all those imaginary and real but unfair 'problems'. Preference is okay, exclusion is not.

R E B E C C A: hey Gerald...i dont think age should be an issue...I want to be loved for "me"...its wots inside that counts right? personality grows n looks fade in time.
just a coincidence shes younger n beautiful huh? im sure it was her sparkling personality you fell for ? lol

GeraldTheGnome: You know nothing, if all I saw she was like was just that then she would have been out on her arse two seconds after I contacted her, as it was any novelty factor that kept her over the line longer than expected certainly wore out after the behind my back attitude of October or for that matter from earlier than I know of. It was more than just looks, age and all other superficial things.

GeraldTheGnome: Okay, that didn't make sense. If that is all I thought of her then.. That would've made more sense than 'if all I saw she was like was just that'.

BeautifullyConfused: Eh, I think for some people age makes a difference. Others, not so much. My sweety and I are a lil over 20yrs difference (he's older) and it works very well for us. Is it always easy? No. But it has been well worth it. However, our maturity levels are a very good fit for one another, and our lifestyles are unique, and fit well together, so that helps us a lot.

GeraldTheGnome: That's good because on the flip side of that there's the situation where age exclusion is the be all and end all, I've seen examples of that on this site, online elsewhere and offline. Age preference I fully understand and is acceptable but age exclusion is just an unfair way of looking at things, I could tell a number of people off on this site alone for buying into age exclusion even before they made first contact with the other person. Instead I've only told off a few people on this site for doing so.

The childish and very immature 'Ewwww' bs seen on here be a few females, mainly by teenage girls, is very unfair and wrong also, fortunately that's never at least directly aimed (or maybe even at all). Some of the other things about age that they come out with including labelling people slanderous (and most of the time incorrect and unfair) names should stop.

By the way if I found a way to meet the girl in the video I showed on here and she was interested in me then I'd go out with her, that very sexy female is such a big turn on.

Whimsical Fairy: My Pops is 18 years older then my Mother and age has never been an issue with them. Hell, you wouldn't even know they are 18 years apart by looking at them.

R E B E C C A: lol i was gonna comment but i wont

Whimsical Fairy: I'm sure it was some poke at my gray hair anyway Becca



Just one question for you Becca...don't you think if my gray hair bothered me, I would color it. My hair only seems to bother you.