Technology has changed dating

Metaverseguy: There's web sites that cater to dating now. Millions of people online are connected so people don't even have to leave their house to get a phone number and meet the potential love of their life. There's apps that connect people instantly and a new web site for nearly every cliché experience.

Tinder, Plenty of Fish, Match, eHarmony, okcupid, zoosk, adultfriendfinder, ashleymadison

Do you use any online tools and do you think it helps? Or do you prefer to meet people when you're out at dance clubs, through friends, or other methods?

notsur3ly: For someone like me who won't approach a woman in person, it is great. But I've stopped with everything. Made a decision.

Metaverseguy: In my experience no one even wants to meet using those things. It's just like an ego booster for them. They put up hot pics and just enjoy all the attention. For people that really want to get in a relationship meeting in person and stuff is still a good way.

notsur3ly: You are kind of right about that. I've realized that quite a bit from the profiles that I've read. The ones you thought would be great, wouldn't reply or would string you along without ever meeting.

I honestly think dating in general has changed and it has gotten worse.

Metaverseguy: Well I think it's easier for people to cheat. Not only is there web sites geared towards that, but people make profiles on all these sites and don't mention they're married or have SO's. Maybe they like the attention but don't want the guilt of cheating. Plus the sites keep fake profiles and bots to make it seem like there's a bunch of attractive people in the area so you'll pay for membership.

calybonos: I tried one of those mail-order brides once. It didn't work out.
My friends tried to warn me not to, but I guess I just had to learn things the hard way.

She was dead when I opened the box.

Metaverseguy: Yea they are supposed to poke air holes in them.

Cherokee 26: well...it does help ease a rejection with online dating...i've approached many women and have been turned down which in the end kept me resistant to going up to someone later that i found attractive in the fear of ending my day on a bad note. With online dating you get to chat with the person...see their pics and get to kind of know them before you hang out and meet in person...makes the atmosphere ten times better when you do meet because based off of talking ...you can kind of gage whether or not they are worth meeting or just moving on to someone else. So I find the online dating tool kind of a positive more than a negative. Now...the downside to online dating...is the fact that like people using dating sites...they are usually talking to multiple people which means you have to constantly keep the other persons attention on you and off of other guys/girls that may be on the site which can be difficult at times.

Metaverseguy: I always think of rejection as something that's always going to happen. So if 5/10 women refuse to dance or let you buy them a drink then it's just statistics and try and shrug it off. There are definitely some perks with online dating that you can't find anywhere else. Meeting people when going out is kind of like a meat market. You're probably just looking for the hottest chick whereas online you can read their profile so you can find out that if they smoke weed everyday, their favorite movie is retarded and they don't even read maybe you can avoid her even if she is a 9/10.

joellatbird: Interesting Forum. I like your ways of thinking Fortran. Just based off of your comments, I can even see us being like-minded I'm not joined to any dating sites but I have noticed the world changing as so have the people accordingly. I still think it's best to initially meet in person but online can be a great place to initially connect/find someone. The problem I do have with meeting people online is the way many guys want to talk forever online prior to taking it off the net. That is just not normal to me and they act like if they met a woman online the dating process should go differently than if they had met that same woman at a store per se. They get all worried about sharing their number or meeting in a public place, as if they need to be extra careful with someone they met online. Hell, just verify they are who they say by cam then and take it the normal route. Getting to know through IM messes up the normal process and can actually end something before it ever got a real chance.

notsur3ly: I have found the women to be very cautious when I mentioned lets meet up now, maybe a week into chatting. That's when the conversation ended or excuses started to come along. I know nowadays women tend to see me as unapproachable but that's because I assume every woman is taken and I talk to them as if they are married instead of trying to get with them. But I know I'm a little messed up upstairs in my head .

TTauresa: what we have to remember that meeting someone online is like meeting someone blind! You cannot see or feel the same things you do if you were meeting that person in real life and face to face. Online "chemistry" does not always translate well in RL, even if present in Skype. The best way to do it is to meet online but very soon after meet in real life if you feel there is something good between the two of you! But sometimes the other person is over seas and there is a high likelyhod that you may never meet in real life which is so sad