dina's journal delightful_dina: Name: kimberly Live: Tampa Bay, Florida Owner: unowned Age: 33 What do I hope to gain from this experience? I hope to learn how to embrace my submissive instincts with dignity and pride. My submission is a is a gift and I wish to blossom and learn how to use my gift to its fullest and be of good service to my Dom. (Edited by delightful_dina)  delightful_dina: Journal Task #2 What does submission mean to me? Submission means to give control of myself to my Dom whole hearted, mind body and soul. To unresistingly submit to his wishes and orders. To trust my Dom has my best interests at heart while allowing myself to be molded into the sub I am meant to be. It is to be obedient and humble. It is to be open and honest with everything including the things I may not be comfortable with or understand and, the things that may occur in my every day life. It is to accept his guidance and trust he would never misguide me in my journey. Submission is a commitment and gift that is never to be taken lightly or abused.  KittenBlu: I love this answer, dina... i can tell you put a lot of thinking into it.... please continue with the next lesson. delightful_dina: Journal Task #3 Dominants should always be typed with a Capital letter and submissive with a lowercase letter unless otherwise instructed. Why? Dominants names are always Capitalized as a form of respect to their Authority and status in the community. As a submissive I will respect this and address them as I am expected to unless I am otherwise instructed. However I do believe this is a status and Authority that is earned and never just given. Submissive names are always lowercased to identify their status in the community. This does not show the submissive to be a door mat but as someone who chose and accepts their place in the community and someone who has respect for the Authority of those above them (Dominants/Domme/Masters). KittenBlu: well done... some Dominants prefer to be addressed as their name is typed... but in those cased you follow their wishes.... please continue to next lesson delightful_dina: I started this as an Owned sub and.found how quickly i could be crushed by one. My heart weeps at how foolish i was but now i must pick the.pieces up and move forward in my journey. This will be taken as a lesson learned to be more cautious on who receives my gift. My next.post is yet to come. Just be patient with this girl while she heals and grows.  thewolfslilangel: *Holds dina's hand*, there are always many blind alleys on this journey sis, learn from each one and you will find happiness in the end, the wonderful thing about the lifestyle is you have sisters holding your hand and walking it with you...smile x delightful_dina: *looks up as a tear falls* thank you sis this girl is thankful to have her sisters. With, my sisters to hold my hand and guide me through my journey joys me More than words can express. *smiles* this girl can never thank her sisters enough KittenBlu: ~hugs you tight~ hold on to your sisters, little one ... take time to heal ... know that you are worthy of being owned.... the right Dom will find you one day baygirls510: *bay hold sister hand as we heal together* sis I too was foolish and blinded, but know we shall walk this path of healing and sister bonding together. delightful_dina: To KittenBluRose *this girl accepts your hug and smiles* thank you this girl has the best supportive sisters anyone could ask for i will hold my sisters close at all times. *nods* i understand and will not forget this girl is worthy of being owned once this girl heals. thank you so very much *smiles* delightful_dina: To bay my dear sweet sister we take this hard lesson together and it saddens me *reaches to take her sister by her hand and smiles* we shall walk this path to learn and grow together with a sisterly bond we can make it through anything. *smiles and tugs at her sister* now come lets heal and blossom for A/all to see delightful_dina: Journal task # 4 Safe word: a safe word is something put into place to let O/one know when the play has exceeded the limitations beyond limitations that O/one can not and/or will not tolerate. As i hope to never feel the need to use a safe word there will be one in place for a situation in which could occur. I feel if i am open and honest the One worthy of my submission will listen and understand me inside and out. They will know my limitations and yes maybe push some but will have such a bond they will know the ones not to push. However if i need the use of a safe word ALL play will stop. At time of safe word use i strongly suggest communication so O/one can understand O/one's feelings and emotions so the bond can never break but only become stronger. Limitations: limitations are something E/everyone has. Here again i suggest open and honest communication. Limitations can be something if O/one does not express could very quickly break a bond. W/we don't know ALL of O/our limitations some are learned as they occur and this is something to be understood. As i grow and learn i find in every step of my journey that i have limitations in which when i decide One to be worthy of my submission i will openly discuss all of them with. They will know and understand both my hard limits (don't try it) and my soft limits(not sure but open for discussion) and They must accept and understand my list could change at anytime as A/anyones always could. KittenBlu: very good job dina.... you should also talk about a signal for when you are "mute"....a scarf you can drop.... a little cat ball with a jingle inside is nice.. and can be heard delightful_dina: Yes you are right KittenBluRose and i think something that makes sound would be best. I guess when i heard safe word i never thought safe sound. I will keep this in mind and thank you. *smiles and nods* delightful_dina: Journal Task # 5 What does obedience mean to you? I thought i would have a very hard time with this one but find it is not as hard as i thought it would be. W/we all spent our childhood being taught to listen and obey and yes i know this is not the same completely however to a certain extent it is. To listen and obey is a choice W/we all make in life and i feel in the "lifestyle" it is very important. If a sub/slave does not feel they can listen and obey their Owner then they should never make a commitment to that Owner. I feel if O/one takes the time to get to know O/one you know listen to T/their thoughts, dreams, desires, wants, hopes and, needs then O/one will know if these can be fufilled by T/them. If O/one does not feel able to give all O/one needs then it be best to walk away. This girl has very strong opinions on obedience and feels the need and desire to be very obediant. This girl also understands at times obedience may be hindered due to the request and will always be open and honest with my Owner in discussion about any request i am not comfortable with. To close this in my opinion what is a submissive if not able to submit to Ones request/order. (Edited by delightful_dina) KittenBlu: i see that you have discovered that it is very difficult to define each tenet in a stand alone fashion.... you will see that all six are intertwined ... obedience is very hard... your natural free will battles with obedience... that is why the belief that submissives are weak is so false... good job dina... please continue delightful_dina: Journal Task # 6: Why is communication important in the D/s relationship? Well for those W/who are following this girls journal already know she finds communication very important as she has brought this subject up a lot. If O/one can not communicate with O/one what is the point of moving forward. There must always be open and honest communication in order to form a bond to never be broken. Without communication O/one will never really know O/one and with this there really is not a relationship to begin with and this will fail very quickly. In order to have a strong D/s relationship there must first be a bond one where O/one knows what is wanted/needed/desired and without communication how will O/one ever really know. And lets not forget what O/one does not want/need/desire. Always remember no O/one is a mind reader. Open up or O/one will never be satisfied in the D/s relationship and this will cause nothing but destruction before the journey begins. (Edited by delightful_dina) |
