Age Matters When... Rochy =): It usually matters when there's a fight or some sort of other conflict, thats when age is brought up, and usually its when one is younger than the other that one resorts to reasons like "they are young so they are gonna act immature" At times most of this is true, but in my opinion, age doesnt matter when it comes to love...it matters when it comes to conflict, and what you should really tell yourself at that moment is this, "I fell in love with them and accepted them in the beginning I should not complain that its because of their age because they were still this age when I fell in love."  Micha: Im agreed on wht u ve said abt diff of age whn comes abt conflicts.. but yeah i can be damn greedy whn comes abt love..  HughEvan: some age differences arent too bad (5-15yrs) but when you enter the next category 16 - 25 years people do look upon you and frown upon it, which does draw tension in the relationship. but if its not an everyday event it can be easily overcome.  IrishSpirit:  as you age, your wisdom does improve. Wisdom will teach you to address the issues being argued, not the age difference. FreshPineappleXpress: Age matters when one of them is a teen and the other is about 30+ years old. Thats just wrong  Rochy =): Ok so.. Correction: Age matters when it's with someone underage. It doesn't matter when its with someone of legal age. But seriously there are some places where the legal age is something like 16. Thats just disgusting. FreshPineappleXpress: Well I wont even say that like if theyre 'underaged' cuz as you stated Roch the age of consent is 16 and even younger in some places (which is gross). I think its a bit stupid that a guy can goto jail for dating a 17 year old and then once she has a birthday a month later its ok? Its a really delicate situation: Teenagers generally should stick to dating other teens, and once you reach adulthood then you can start to explore dating older people. But when ur in high school its just not a good idea IrishSpirit: The age thing matters in regards to delivery of a child. An underage girl (say less than 18) will have great difficulty and perhaps the child will not have full benefit of a mature womans body. Our culture changed in post middle ages, where before the girl was EXPECTED to marry by age 13. Of course age spans then were under 40. Now age spans of 90 and more are becoming quite commonplace. It is quite possible for an 18 yr old lady to marry a man 40 yr older and have a healthy family. I know its not common place in our culture, and yes there are acceptance barriers at every turn. But in many of these marriages, the girl is very mature, and the man is joyful to have a family, because children although a drain, add great joy to life. blitsnik: i just have to ask. what if the guys a minor by a couple years and the girls just over 18? as long as both are ok with it i think age doesnt matter. IrishSpirit: the matter of economics is MOST IMPORTANT to any marriage. It is usually the reason most marriages do not last. My answer is simply if you are financially independent, then you can marry any age, and take care of the many many bills. HOWEVER, if you must work, my advice is to have AT LEAST A COLLEGE DEGREE, or equivalent, and earn the kind of money that lets mom stay at home to care for the kids, and yet for you both to feel happy by being able to go out and have fun, travel, have social friends and parties. ALL this costs money. So you must focus on building your NET WORTH before you ever marry!  Blondie: i agree when it comes to much older men who have stable jobs, life experience why go for someome about 18. it is a little on the gross side and a bit like kiddy fiddling, just even thinking about it makes my skin crawl  Wild__: A large age difference will become an issue when one person is still young and attractive and the other party starts wearing adult diapers. bri: when it comes to underage dating the younger person is still nieve and hasn't developed the right hormones in the brain to even know what love is and the older person uses that to monipulate the younger one to thinking that its love and i know this from experience i was young and nieve and this guy monipulated me into thinking i was in love with him and i ended up moving away from my family and after a while of living with him he started to break me down and make me feel bad about myself so when i was more wise i wouldn't have the guts to leave him but almost 4 years of being with him and lots of people telling me how wrong he was to treat me that way i finally was able to leave him and now im living much happier with a great guy who treats me right and we are having a child together so never assume its alright for an underage relationship to work leave them for the younger people and let them grow into some true knowledge let them enjoy what childhood they still have left and go out into the world there are people out there wiser and better suited for you im about to become a monther and im gunna teach my boy some respect so he never does what my ex did to me.
 queen_cathy1988: I would think your age would matter when talking to someone you haven't met i'm not shy about my age but most people are i think bri: yea but a 14 year old could feel like their 22 but it still doesn't make them that age in their mind development i don't care what you say when it comes to what you think cause when it comes to anyone they can think that they are a horse but it just doesn't make them one you can think your older or younger all you want but it still just makes you the same age might make you seem a little more immature so go ahead and believe that its a state of mind cause I used to think it was too until i saw what it really means I've learned a lot and im still young and i still have tons more to learn but what i have learned is that age matters when it comes to dating and under-age youth. queen_cathy1988: when it comes to dating an under age boy or girls yes but other then that age is just a state of mind your only as old as you feel. so don't say you don't care about something someone writes cause they could be trying to help or just writing what they think. it's just ones opinion about it. you should think about that first before saying something like that  lovelyrita88: I am 23, I'm dating a man twice my age plus. I have about 5 years experience on the subject of older man/younger woman. All I have to say is when it comes down to it, each persons life is different. The situation, the couple, each relationship is unique. Not every couple will survive the troubles that do come with this taboo territory. And there will be trials. Things such as maturity of the younger person, whether there are kids involved, family members disapproving. Honestly though, if you look at just those few examples, that could be said about all relationships. You just have to decide whether this path is for you. I love my older man with all my heart and can truly say age does not matter to me. The way you connect and feel about a person has no expiration date. People are born, they live, they die. As to how long you're on this earth is anyone's guess and if you love someone you enjoy the days you have with them. bri: but make sure your at the age when you are able to actually love when you are young and immature you may think your in love but your brain doesnt have the right chemicals to actually make it love teens cant love they can be infatuated with someone but they cannot love i know this first hand and ive taken classes on psychology i know what im talking about and i wouldnt want my 14 year old girl with a 18 or 19 year old i just couldnt have that.  dan_89_22: rita you are married and your seeing somone else. that just tells what type of person you are.... buy the way ever one this is her real legal husband |
