find true love or stay suffering for you kids.

If you're in a relationship with a man and have two kids by him but this man love his kids he spolied them, but you're no longer in love with him because he's extremely jealous and he often embarrassed you in public. U felt in love with someone else, would you live him for someone else? or you'll just stay suffering for your kids because u feel no other man could love rhem as much he did.

Leave...i was with 1st hubby for 13yrs,3 boys and waited for him 'to change' the jelousy got worse,his insecurities got worse, to the point that i hated him with a passion. I stayed purely for the boys and they eventually suffered because of the arguments between their dad n i and eventually resented them for loving me. It just wasnt healthy for them to be in such an unhappy environment. Then i meet my now hubby,7yrs ago now (while still married) he showed my such respect n affection that i realised its not worth forsaking everyones happiness just to keep 'the family together'.Myself and boys r in a far better place now n i hav since had 2 more boys with my 2nd hubby who loves all children equally.

Excuse me for getting religious, but I think the only way that something like that can be avoided is to know that you were in love in the first place. You may not be in love with someone else, just rather in deep lust or sentimentalism because he makes you feel the way your husband can't. God intended for all marriage to be permanent, I just find it very sad that more couples are just ignoring the problems for the sake of the children and, instead of seeking Godly counseling, just sign divorce papers. It's as if people, when saying wedding vows, think to themselves "well if all else fails, there's always a divorce", and now children are involved in a marriage that really didn't have a lot of love in it to begin with, rather a lot of lust and strong emotional attachment. But once it fades, there is fighting and divorce, and it's heart breaking. I really don't know how to give you advice, because I've never made it to the altar, myself. And I probably just ran the risk of sounding hypocritical, as I have a baby girl that I gave birth to without wedding vows or anything. But I guess the best thing I can say is to seek Godly counsel and try to work things out and not just "trample through it" for the sake of the children. In reality, that's nowhere near healthy. But I do wish you the best of luck. Stay Strong.