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fear.

I think fear really diminishes one's capacity of being alive and awake to the world and the opportunities that present themselves . I have had fear in the past . but now i am almost without it. i take all security measures which are reasonable without being paranoid about it. but if i were asked what i fear most, it would be , nothing. loss is a fact of life . why fear it. it will happen. accept this. people will die on you .prepare yourself for this eventuality . you will age . accept this. someday you too will die, why deny this or live in fear of this. life is not meant to be lived with fear in our hearts. pray . and trust your maker . and make the most of yourself and your life . without having too demanding standards. give yourself the chance to live a little. forget about past experiences which make you fearful in the present. be really present in your present and be happy . this is what counts.

how to have self confidence

the way to bring up your self confidence is by not being in denial about how much you have. to do stock taking with yourself and by recognising all the wonderful qualities that you have. and by telling yourself that nobody in this world is better than you in every way . and by repeating to yourself by way of positive affirmations that there is nothing you cannot handle and no person you cannot manage. say" I can manage anything and handle anyone" to yourself over and over again until it becomes a reality. and you can vanquish misgivings and self doubt . and not take yourself so seriously . lighten up , enjoy your life. make your life gorgeous. and dont focus on the small small things wrong with your physical self. which all of us have . and which nobody really notices. and keep telling yourself that you are an attractive person . in every way. dont let your self confidence depend on how you look . have attitude and gumption . and really live your life to the fullest with passion and pizzazz.

empty prisons - a must have

i think the level of human suffering is almost at its worst in prisons , especially when one is an alcoholic or is drug dependant. One of my goals in my lifetime is to come up with a totally different means by which we can reform our poor-things-so-called criminals without incarcerating them. there is such a huge percentage of people locked up . who are we to do this to anybody . it is not acceptable. there must be a way . it is insane to put huge numbers of people together and lock them up, for years oftentimes. sometimes just because their lawyer messed up , sometimes because of a single casual mistake , sometimes because of an act committed out of dire needs , sometimes out of peer influence , some commit crimes of passion on the spur of the moment. Our justice system needs a complete over haul.

marriage . what women really want.

marriage is not a bed of roses. and basically a woman would marry you if she knows she can fully trust you to treat her right. not just in the courting stage but throughout your marriage , if she agrees to marry you . And you have to be right with yourself if you are going to be able to do this. i do know that when a guy tells me he wants to marry me , or that he loves me , without even spending time with me to get to know me well , this is just so superficial and insincere. and i always say a firm no. if a guy claims to have fallen in love with me at first sight , this is also so superficial and again a firm no. women have learnt to tell the real thing from a phoney or fake guy . that is all i have to say at this point.

The origin of the belief in God. One of my simpler theories.

God , poor guy ,he gets blamed a lot . and since nothing much that is superlatively good is happening to any of us these days ( i am only guessing ) , the poor chappie certainly gets a lot of curses. And tons of us dont even recognise his existence anymore. Poor God. I wonder what we can do to make his day. As opposed to us making demands of him which may be unreasonable even to him.
Why does the concept of God exist ?Maybe because in previous early ages , things were better and people could depend on him and be grateful to him . or to one such entity who was deemed to be the giver of good things . But now we are in an age where there is so much of greed etc . We really are a decadent lot. There are layers and layers of dirt all over the humans in particular and the world in general. making it difficult for us to see God and for Him to see us. i am theorising and maybe it sounds fantastical . But God really does exist . From my perception at least. And prayer really does help. I hope God has a plan for us . Because we as a race are running out of ideas and inspiration. And bad things keep happening. Now is not the time to turn away from Him.

We are responsible for our actions.

To maintain that we have no control over ourselves , is to take away responsibility for our actions and speech. And makes for a dangerous philosophy. Idiosyncrasies and habits are very hard to vanquish . i completely agree. But we can control speaking , acting and thinking in racist or self defeating manners etc . The reason why we are impulsive and often reactive , i believe ,is because our mind is usually a cess pit of dark whirling thoughts , and we have not thought through the thing well enough. Often we think that if we strongly feel a certain way , it must be correct. So our actions are based on feelings, impulses and some lack of wisdom and previous experiences and imperfect knowledge and often we are not in possession of all the facts. The solution? Just do your best . And be kind to yourself.
The phrase , "you are only human" , has a lot of inbuilt safety valves to allow us to love ourselves regardless. Just dont ever rely on such philosophy to think you can do whatever you want. or say whatever you like. without caring about the harm it may do to yourself or to another.

No bitterness .

The absolute sky is the limit for everyone. Theoratically at least. No need to let petty things get us down. no need to be concerned with what others are saying about us as long as they spell our name right. no need to try to please everyone , or to be popular. As long as we know we are doing the principled thing, just do it. Dont sell yourself short in this game of life. Be powerful in how you present yourself to the world. and avoid feeling frustrated , and especially vanquish the last trace of bitterness from your mind and heart forever.

money or love?

When the issue of money is sorted out ,then we can love in peace . I wish the world spun on love rather than money. Just think , if we all had love for each other , there would be no crime because to commit a crime is an act of hate , definitely not love. To violate another seems to be the in-thing . This also would not exist if love is at the forefront of the humans' thinking and behavior .
It is a waste of human life to pursue money to the exclusion of everything else. If trying to make money consumes all your thinking and time, you need to take a step back . Money is convenient to have . And we really cannot do without it given the systems and structure of the man made civilisations. I really wish we could just love and love and have all our material needs met without having to pursue money or even having to work for money. i wish we could all work purely out of love for our chosen vocation.

Definition of success

I define success as the condition where a person has got excellent self mastery , is delighted to be in his own skin and truly has the quality of compassion for his fellow human beings and for himself. When he is able to take life as it comes , is secure and has the capacity to make full use of his talents and gifts in ways that are enriching , not just materially .

Regrets?

i suppose if i were to think of it , i probably would be able to unearth some regrets. But why even go there. mistakes i have made plenty , foolishness i have displayed much in the past . Who hasnt . i just put it down to the folly of relative immaturity . I see time slipping away . I can't seem to capture it . Time will keep on keeping on then you die. But to be alive, how glorious. How fortunate . Dont carry the baggage of bitterness , regret and self frustrations. Why should we . forget it . release it . let it go . and get on with life. while you still have it.

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Are you truly here now?

Are you truly here now?
Have you often had the feeling that you are not truly present in your own life? That your mind is rushing all over the place and you are unable to concentrate on what is at hand? When in the midst of a conversation or meeting, you find that you are thinking of anything but what is going on at the time. Just imagine if you could always bring your mind back to the present moment. So that you are able to derive fun and pleasure from your activities. So that you are almost always functioning efficiently, not absent minded, not with any room for carelessness.

Stray thoughts have a way of making us nervous and distracted. And sometimes the mind simply has too much to think about which results in fear and indulgence in dissatisfaction, unhappiness and moodiness. The question to ask is how can we live, truly be alive and awake to every moment of our lives . Awake to the opportunities as they present themselves. Relishing and savoring the beauty of the world, without being bogged down by worry, anxiety, fear and misgivings. All of us have experienced the pain of second guessing ourselves. Some thought has to go into our responses. We must not give in to foolish impulsiveness. Although some spontaneity can make life lovelier.
In order to be present in our present, we have to train our mind. And we have to expand the mind, so that we are not consumed by nitty gritty thoughts which cause our minds to flutter and casts a gloom on the way we live our lives. I suggest that we keep pen and paper at hand so that we may jot down the fresh thoughts we have as well as the thoughts from the past or future that threaten our sangfroid. Unload the mind. Do this on a regular basis. Then analyse these jottings when you have time. Streamline your life and mental energies. And you will find that life can be really beautiful. The game is on the table. Enjoy it for what it is. Life can be fun especially when one is absolutely present in one’s present. Strive for this. Be here now.

why the law of karma is a pitiful theory.

I dont like the concept of karma although in theory it sounds good. But there really is so much of evil in the world.And it is very true that the good in having higher standards do suffer much more. There is no pain when one does not have a conscience , and lives a selfish life. There is no conflict of the mind and then one's only principle is that one should not get caught for the evil things one does and says. Too often another person's evil brings upon the good people clear suffering. And this is grossly unfair. The good person , he sets certain standards for himself . And he probably has more than his fair share of principles. It does not make sense but it is very true to say that often the good do suffer more. So out goes the karma theory. I think our Lord is not focusing on the problems at hand and needs to get out of His slumber.

I cannot explain the intense suffering we go through. Especially when the person is essentially good. It seems so unfair. I can only think in terms of the pearl of the oyster or molten gold in fire being crafted into the most beautiful ornaments. The oyster and the Gold suffered so much , but just see how much of beauty was produced. This is rationalising suffering. Suffering is real. And it can be intense. So let's see what each of us can do to alleviate it. Although ultimately it will take supreme effort even on the part of our Maker to do this in full . I pray that God makes this world wholesome and every one of us happy beyond belief.

my thoughts on God.

i believe that there is a Supreme divine power . Shall we call him God? And I just think He is either slumbering or not very focused or else He has a mysterious plan for us which is so secret that none of us can guess at it. I do know that praying helps , whether or not He exists. I can understand the atheistic point of view. and i dont depend on God for anything . i make the efforts for myself. and i take all security measures without being paranoid about it. i dont appreciate the divisiveness of religions. and i am not religious . i love God because He is very real to me. And i pray for all i am worth . And this is how i live my life. works for me.

paradox

The Paradox women face.

this world where s&* sells and women are portrayed
as sx@ objects unfairly and unnaturally.
And all women want to be beautiful.
The high from being a jaw dropping,head turning beauty.
This high is unique
and then old age sets in and the rush for botox and
plastic surgery, face lifts and liposuction..
Women flaunting their stuff and being loved
for their bodies and sexiness.
What sort of love
is that anyway ?
Pregnancy and motherhood sets in and life is
never the same again. And people in a mess
and life in shambles and godlessness
invading the human spirit.And women feeling insecure
and not being altogether sure about just why they
are loved. Or rather lusted after.
Or else they know.Hard heartedness and
cold bloodedness . And our women lose
their substance all in favour of being
sexy and beautiful so that they won’t be alone
and then old age and disease
sets in and youth is gone
and we begin to feel wanting
because now we don’t
have the confidence that
we can find love.
The men who loved us when
we were beautiful have fled
for fresher fish
and we are alone
or else saddled with kids
who tell us to act our age.
Life , it can be so different
if we women were allowed
To develop our real selves.
Some change needed to the
system. Extreme makeovers
And then they are confident.
Without it , they spend their lives
Feeling ugly and unwanted,
When so easily we can be
All we can be by not being
So focused on our physical
Selves. Which can never make
us real or ensure love for
All our lives.
Think about it.

an original piece by me.
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Class defined.

Love is fun if you know how. And to be in love with a classy man, woman, you would have even more fun. Because a classy person is not petty or immature , or wicked or cruel. Class is not man made. Class from a materialistic point of view is purely artificial. But class which essentially means the genuine positiveness of a person is utterly earthy . For example, if you know your lover has cheated on you , do you get your own back, dump him , use profanity and violence or do you just listen to him in a compassionate manner and take it from there. with no recrimination or abuse . Now , that is class.

beautiful people.

We live this life to actualise our fullest potentialities. It is very very hard to acquire a quality unless one pretends that one already has the quality . For example, if you want to be a totally self confident person, you assume this quality . And then very soon your play acting will become real and you will indeed become a totally self confident person. We are all canvases. If you think too much water has gone under the bridge already, then realise that it just takes a change of mind set to clear the canvas which is us of all the negative colors and forms and pictures . Sit quietly by yourself and imagine that you are a brilliant white canvas. Visualise this . And when you can see it, you begin your life's journey now , to proceed to have the loveliest colors of the world on the canvas . From now onwards you select in a very discriminating manner , the loveliest experiences and responses from your own self. And you begin to have the most wonderful qualities. because you have a fresh start . Do this. It really works .

be wholesome and complete by your ownself.

Almost all women sabotage their chances of being completely happy because they think that they need a partner to be complete. This is a false concept. It is when we are already whole and wholesome then a man from "mars" will be able to contribute to our happiness. but the responsibility to be happy is our own. and must be held in our own hands. otherwise , we shall always be needy and wanting more and more and not quite knowing why and how come.

dont hurt the one you love .

On the topic of love ,there are so many people out there . we are simply spoilt for choice where it comes to finding love. When you are entering into a relationship , and are not sure if it is a suitable situation, simply do your best to make the relationship work. If you find that doing and being your best takes too much effort and is not satisfying , and your partner's best is not enough for you or (s)he is not doing his/her best , then consider whether less than your best is enough for you and him/her to be happy in the relationship. it the answer is no, then move on. and dont look back.

The following is a response i posted in another forum .A response to a lady who says that people cant help fighting and hurting each other when in love . I responded that to fall in love , or to think that you are in love, this is also idealistic thinking. So why cant we have an idealistic approach to our partner when we are in that "being in love state of mind". The fact is we can have control over what we say and do when we apply ourselves. We would not say the wicked and hurtful things we say to our partner when we want to hurt him/her or when we are hurt, we would not say them to our boss. so why say them at all. it is all about being responsive , as opposed to being reactive . relationships get ruined and destroyed because we think we can let it all hang out in a relationship . but we really should not use love as a passport for saying and doing things in the name of love , which actually reflect immaturity or lack of personal self control

black or white morality

In terms of the morality of an act , some things are clearly bad and therefore black and some may be white , but not quite. I would hate to sound moralistic but somethings are simply not acceptable. at all. we all should know what these are . Things that range from wife beating , to paedophilia to drug pushing to traficking in women and children and forcing them into prostitution or slavery, and one might even say that driving negligently is in the black area of things. i guess the bottom line is , if what you do or say harms another , you are not right . Whatever you do to yourself , some of it is also in the black area. Like allowing yourself to smoke or drink excessively and do drugs, have unprotected sexual relations, getting involved in an abusive relationship , using profanity superfluously , depriving yourself of happiness by thinking negatively and abusing your body and mind, putting yourself at the mercy of a person who uses you and abuses you .You must protect yourself from all of these . i suggest you make a list of things that are not acceptable to you and the kind of life you want to have. list making really helps a whole lot. then resolve . and then life becomes immensely livable and can even be lovely.

forum topic . Love is.......

I am just going to talk about romantic love here.
Which is just a small subset of the true concept of love .
One must be smart and shrewd enough to know when (s)he just loves you for your body and swz appeal and to know that this is not love ,it is lust.and can never last unless he/she knows you and loves you for yourself.
Love means that the two of you know that you will be happy to grow older together and look forward to the golden age when no matter how much hair he has lost and how much weight she has gained , you still adore spending time with her/him .
Love means never using vile words or violence in speech or words against your partner . Love means not saying or doing things which are hurtful and only serve to cause unnecessary deterioration in the relationship.
Love means not playing mind games with her/him .
Love means that you dont start talking about divorce or parting of ways just because of a human mistake or indiscretion. That you really do try to understand your partner and dont put him/her on a pedestal only to abandon him/her when you find that like all idols, he/she has clay feet.
Love means kindness , compassion , understanding and genuine affection .
Love means feeling blessed to have someone like your partner in your life.
Love means no petty quarrels and no picking on each other and having empathy towards your partner and not giving each other hell for nothing much at all.
Love means agreeing to disagree and not having to win every argument
love means not being so foolish as to say things you can not retract which causes the relationship to suffer. think and talk .
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On the forum topic why God lets us suffer , i have this to say.

God has given man free will. Our suffering is almost entirely the result of our choices.It is now all up to God to save us from ourselves. Poor God, He has quite a job on His hands. We have been messing up through the centuries. But for the most part, these really are the best of times. Not counting all the pain and suffering , there is a lot of beauty in the world . There is so much to enjoy in the world, but for all this, man is suffering because he lacks self control and self mastery . I do believe in a divine power . The super power who when He applies Himself , has the ability to vanquish every bit of our intense pain and suffering. The question is, would He want to ? And do we deserve His intervention?. I think because we suffer , we are still somewhat pitifully lovable to our Maker. So the prognosis is good. God is already present in the world , evident in all the beauty we have with us. Let Him make His divine presence felt more acutely . Bless God.



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I do understand the essence of God which is that He is all merciful and a very very loving individual. Yet at the same time He is strong and powerful . And is not afraid to say no when the time has not yet come to grant our requests and prayers. He may know best but I do believe that He needs to be prodded into action for our sake .And the best way to attract His attention to us is by praying . I know for a fact that the cosmic supreme spirit is always watching and listening . And that He knows what we get up to . We may fool others ,but He really is all knowing and all seeing. And he cannot be fooled. Maybe we suffer because we have not yet resolved to be good. And to be good for something . It is said that we don't even have to become good , all we have to do is to resolve to be good, and swiftly God will rush to aid us so that we do indeed become righteous and good people. And then we shall suffer no more. Sounds good , right?
Why dont we try this?

i just love the human race.

People are so amazing . We are so smart at creating things and coming up with ideas. I really do believe that the grease which oils the mechanics of life is self confidence. But the worst tyrants and despots of the world are usually very self confident people. So now what? I guess we have to temper self confidence with compassion. For ourselves and for others. It is very easy to be preachy . And i never want to be this. I just want to share what i have learnt , almost by the hard way . About how we can make our lives gorgeous . The mind matters. As well as the character . Strive to have perfect character . And liberate our mind. Free it from shackles of racism, bigotry, jealousy, mental lousiness, greed, anger, self loathing etc etc. i know that this is very very hard to do. Set high standards . But accept that you are only human. But as a human being you can be amazing. So be amazing for all you are worth. Don't be self limiting. And don't rely on average people as your yardstick. Who knows?You might someday have the stature of a Churchill or Roosevelt. But be kind to yourself at the same time. Don't beat up on yourself for what you perceive as unacceptable goofups or mistakes. You are human and will always be making mistakes or rather , i call them errors of judgment. You are lovable. Accept this. And go for it. Make your life gorgeous.

i have to say this.

The quality of the average human being is substandard. Maybe because life is hard.Maybe we are so busy chasing after elusive pots of gold , that we forget to do something about our quality of the person. i really wish people would say interesting things to me on line when i choose to chat. A lot of them can hardly spell right. which in it self is not a bad thing. Just that , a lot of us are focused on sz~ and sexy issues . And using profane words which serve no real purpose. i am not being a wet blanket here. i mean , if people really enjoy themselves this way , then more power to them. but it is not the way i myself care to enjoy a chat.

i wonder why people have to resort to profanity just to be heard.

i have not chatted in a long time. i just joined a chat room . and this guy talks rubbish to me. and then the whole room explodes in profanity , not directed at me of course. i am just wondering about the mentality of these people. i am not exactly a high brow. but now you know why i seldom chat.

Life really is beautiful. Could not ask for things to be better. I remain beyond aggravations .Or at least nothing is so vitally draining that it can in any way aggravate me. So much to do , think about and observe. I have nothing to fear . And there is nothing i cannot handle and nobody i cannot manage. this much is true.